About three months ago I met this girl and everything went well for the first 3 weeks. It started from texting which turned quickly into phone calls and time spent together. The time spent together included cuddling, kissing, hugging etc. Then one day I made the mistake of asking her what she wanted from me. It caused her to freak out and she stated out that she can't start a new relationship now because she had ended her last relationship couple of months earlier.
I stayed in touch with her because she had told me that she was attracted to me and in different time things would have ended differently. Time went by and we kept seeing each other often (3-4 evenings/week). During this time we became extremely close. She has told me stuff not even her best friends know about her. As time went by I slowly started to add more kino and she has responded to it positively. I can hold my hand on her legs, hug her, have my arms around her etc.
The moment one is about to leave the others place she just stands close to me and just gazes into my eyes. This is when I tried to kiss her couple of days ago and she pulled her head away and told me she doesn't feel that way about me anymore.
However she hasn't said it directly that she just wants to be friends with me.
Now she is afraid of losing me. She told me that losing me would be extremely painful for her because I've made her feel so much better. According to her she was lonely before she met me and I have managed to make that feeling go away. What I can tell is that she is emotionally very invested in me, because she told me that losing me would tear her apart.
Now that I look back I realize at least some of my mistakes. Although I reinitiated kino I didn't do it with flirting and teasing. I haven't done any push/pull stuff in a long time. I've also made it way too easy for her. It became obvious that I was always there for her and she didn't really need to have any effort.
I realize that I need to reverse the frame. I'm planning to take a 2-3 week break from her and start fresh after that. My plan is to disqualify her and start introducing flirting and teasing once again with kino and just hope that i can flip the attraction switches back on.
I'm a newbie when it comes to this stuff so any tips & opinions would be appreciated!