I thought it would be nice for me to start a thread where we all share our worst screw ups. Not just failures, but ways we have totally bombed and screwed up sets or situations that were otherwise going our way. These should ideally be embarrassing and shameful. Itll be great for people to read to just put their own shortcomings in perspective and give them motivation to keep on trying even though they have setbacks and screw up sometimes. And it will also be great for us to share the valuable lessons we have learned from our screw ups, so that others dont have to make the same mistakes, and can just have the wisdom instead haha.
Thursday and firday this week I had two of the worst screw ups I have ever had. Totally embarrassing and shameful.
I started a pua wing man group and actually got a email from a girl. A girl who was super excited to see me doing that in my city, and says she has been into pua culture for a long time. She started asking me all these intellectual relationship questions. Wrote a few paragraphs. Apologized for rambling and admitted being a nerd. I looked up her picture...she was beautiful. I was stunned. I emailed her back saying, we should just get together for coffee. She loved the idea. I set a date for saturday at seven. Shoulda just left it at that but she emailed me back with somethign and I kept going back and forth. She asked me about my name. I told her it was my shaman name. being as how she is intellectual and nerdy I figured she could handle that kinda subject. She came back with a witty joke saying is yoru spirit animal peacock. Idk what I said to that, I just bantered and joked back. Then she said wait are you one of those weird guys on craigslist who offers women free crystal massages. I took this as sarcasm, joking about weird internet creepers, so I played along, saying yea but the crystal is really a penis hahaha. Whats a crystal massage anyways?
yea, that was stupid. It ended there. I had assumed she was cool and had been in pua forums enough to know what guy talk is like, and that she was joking about internet weirdos and weirdos into shamanism and I was supposed to play along, among other things. Boy was I wrong. Lol she sent me an email saying ok that was weird I am uncomfortable and creeped out dont contact me anymore etc. I was like geez sorry I was just joking back to you. Lol may have been the fault of marijuana. I can see afterwards how it was not good risk management.
Manage your risks properly gentlemen. LOl that one hit me pretty hard. I mean I literally, and with serious irony, have a girl fall into my lap, just for being a PUA!!! I mean it was so crazy, and a super sexy beautiful one too! And we have a date! Just automatically! Maybe it was too easy so I didnt take it seriously, idk. but loosing that one was a serious blow. I mean how could I loose that? It was so easy!!! It was a major F-up. Like wow. I guess you just dont value whats easy, so its easy to screw it up.
So the next day I took my son to the museum of play. In our city its this big museum of everythign with teh theme of play. Its for kids and adults. Crazy place.
So I caught a hot young employee hiding to text. went up to her. called her out on it. Bantered with her a little. Said later. Nothing inappropriate. I had seen her before and told her she was pretty and talkeda little then. Just casual common stuff. I'm still learning direct so i keep it casual, take baby steps, you know. So this time I didnt say anything about her looks. Just bantered about her being a rebel at her job. very short too. Then I left. A few minutes later a manager approached me to tell me that "A few" of the s taff had complained that I was making them uncomfortable with personal remarks and such. lol can you imagine getting spoken to for hitting on the staff at a family museum? hahahaha. crazy. Luckily I hadnt actually said anythign inappropriate that day. Idk what that chicks problem was, she was probably one of these girls who is like 18 and super weird about people who are socially outgoing. Who knows. It was messed up though. Seriously. Especially since I hadnt really hit on her that day. And tehy said a few staff. hahaha. I had hit on a few staff tehre but not that day. I was left to wonder how many actual complaints they had gotten. It really sucked. But I know my frame is growing stronger cause it didnt really embarrass me, make me hot and sweaty or any of that. I just felt bewildered, and like it was a messed up situation. Idk. Guess maybe I should make sure the girls I talk to are definately out of their teens hahaha. And pay more attention to IOD's, idk. I'm not sure what to learn from that except watch out cause girls can be seriously messed up creatures. And again, risk management. maybe I shouldnt be utilizing EVERY venue, hahaha.
So these two seem pretty epic to me. Who else wants to share their story?