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    Default Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    Ill try and make it short:
    Theres this girl I knew 4 years ago in HS. we were sort of friends for a while and then we drifted apart completely though from time to time we respond to each other's statuses or posts or w/e so were still highly aware of each other... anyways she's a semi-pro model so she gets a shitload of afc attention and flattery all the time so I decided (as an afc who wants to be a pua) to try and neg her see how she responds...
    she responded well and a couple of days later I figured I'd try to open a chat with her to try and get things going..
    I know its all real lame and im a total afc so please keep to constructive criticism - i really want to learn and get better.
    (we wrote in a different language so its a loose translation here)
    I opened with the following (shes a rocker chick):
    ME: I have a theory I want to test on you - what would you say if I let you listen to pop music?
    Her: depends, i like 80's and 90's pop but the rest I really hate. Whats your theory?
    Me: I might tell you when were done, still considering it.
    Her: did it confirm your theory?
    Me: Ill ask a few more questions then Ill answer yours. what about dubstep?
    Her: maybe a bit blah blah
    I did a couple more of these lame Q's trying to get to:
    Me: so if i asked you, imagine we dont know each other, what you listen to what would you say? //{i knew the answer to this question obviously}
    Her: Mainly rock
    Me: rock? what do you mean by rock exactly?
    Her: you fucker you know what I listen to
    Me: alright yea well let this one slide (though youre not behaving so well)
    Her:
    Me: So how would you define yourself? //{I was hoping shed say a rocker then I could go into scenario I built in my head which would act as a DHV and a qualifier}
    Her: I wouldn't define myself. why are you complicating me so early in the morning? {it was noon actually}
    Me: Im complicating you? here I am all developing a nice theory and then you come along and ruin it for me... just so you know im not happy with you.
    Her: well im glad it got ruined MUHAHAHA
    Me: btw heres another cool motley crew song (link)
    Her: I love their drummer wwhaa hes aweomse blah blah
    Me: youre really into this whole playing the drums thing huh? you got the "drummery" look but I bet your clumsy with the sticks...
    Her: LOL nope not clumsy actually

    At this point I figured I was doing really lame and I should eject and try to regroup or something and save whatever value I have left so I just said
    Me: Well ive had my fun im going to the gym now. have a nice day kiddo
    Her: enjoy yourself darling

    Im really sorry it was this long fellas please let me have it I wana get better at this... what did I do wrong? what should I have done or what should I do next?

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    I think you did pretty well for the most part. You managed to get her to respond which is a good thing. I see you push but then you don't pull. You say you were friends for a while? If you were friend-zoned back then I would recommend that you make your current intentions clear and do it now. Start by flirting because the previous convo is basically fluff talk. In my opinion anyway. If you spent enough time with her before you might not have to work hard on comfort or maybe you don't even have to at all.

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    what do you mean exactly on the push/pull thing? can you explain with like an example maybe?

    and yea we kinda had a thing developing back then and I failed what I now realize was probably a shit test so she lost interest... not really friendzone because I pulled away from that...

    so what should I do next?

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    What I mean by push/pull is for example: You tell her your not happy with her(push) then in the next msg or so you could of complimented her or said anything flirty (pull). You want to keep these balanced. To much pull and she will see you as needy and too much push and you might come off as a dick. It's good that you pulled away from her sh1t test but be careful. Everyone seems to think that every time a girl questions something you've done or defends something about herself they automatically think its a sh1t test. This is not true.

    Like I said you need to make your intentions clear now. Do that by moving toward flirty conversation with a bit of fluff talk in between.

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    Last question for now:
    Should I just strike up another conversation with just a random "how are you?" or an opener or what? im kinda worried ill look like im too interested if I start up another conversation but I don't think shell initiate one either... how does that kind of a situation work really?

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    It all depends when you last spoke to her. If you spoke to her today or yesterday then I would suggest waiting a day or 2 before starting a convo again. And never start out a conversation with "how are you". She probably gets asked that question a millions times and her response will be as short and interesting as the original question. Open with something funny. Make her laugh and youll stick in her head that much longer. Also the onus is on you to start the conversation. Once she is really attracted to you then she will initiate conversation

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    I'm goin to keep my eye this i have my own thread about an opener i'm using if u want to have a look and help out if ya want. i'll be updating it regularly well thats my plan haha

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    Default Re: Facebook attempt report - probably failed..

    Ok so I waited a couple of days then opened with some humorous nonsense bit (from some nonsense game we both used to play), she laughed, I threw another one like the first one was serious (but it was obviously nonsense) she responded with a
    HER: "AWESOME <3"
    i thought great im in but then I think i fucked up i went ME: "well instead of criticizing just go with me! i thought you were fun try a little nonsense yourself common i promise i wont judge"
    HER: Immmmmmmm going to take a shower with the captain" (the captain relates to the nonsense bit from earlier)
    ME: thats more like it maybe youll even amount to something eventually

    Then nothing. - she came back and was online for an extra hour without saying a word... so my question is now what?

    she keeps "liking" my statuses but she isn't messaging me or anything and I think if I start another conversation ill look like an even worse afc or creep or something and like im really into her...

    ideas?


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