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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    This sounds like one itis. Meet other girls, stop giving her attention. She knows she's got you hooked, snap out of it bruv.

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    Kaybee, totally man! One-itis all the way! It sucks because I have to deal with her all the time. I should have friend zoned her long ago.

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    When I call her out on this and friend zone her, how should I go about doing it? Should I make a big deal of it in front of everyone? Part of the reason why I am sucking gaming this chick, because I don't want half the office to know. I think, "well I don't want to say a dis-qualifier now, my other coworkers are here" Yea maybe that in itself is a mistake.

    I want to say to her, "you know you are cute and everything, but its just not going to work out. Lets just be friends. Rather, no I don't want to be friends with you. Lets just be coworkers. OK? and no you can't touch me anymore."

    How's that? And I would love to say it. I have said so many cocky things to this girl and she just eats it all up. Like one time I walked in and said

    Me: "Jill, I brought you a present."
    Her: "Oh?"
    Me: "Yea its right here in my pocket" Make a big show, by reaching in to my jacket pocket and pulling nothing out, and I am giving her the finger.
    Me: "Here it is!" As I am giving her the finger.
    Me: "I wanted to say Jill, that I really care about you! A lot in fact, and I can't stop thinking of you" Mean while the whole time I am still giving the finger. With a big smile on my face.
    Her: "Well I have one for you too"
    Me: "Well lets see it!"
    Her: Reluctantly gives me the finger and is smiling
    Me: lol "Awesome!"
    Me: "Well see you later"
    Her: lol "ok" lol

    Yea that's how it is with us. So she feels real comfortable with me touching her lots and then goes to bag me all night. Does she have an infatuation with my crotch??

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    Dude stop. Just stop.

    You are reaking of wussiness right now. Im pretty sure this is the third thread or something you made about this girl. People have told u what to do and u are not listening. You really need to get this together because if your work is suffering for a girl... you are not alpha. You need to start at step one.

    Frame control... neediness... cocky funny.... negging.

    You have none of these things right now. This girl might have thought u were like her at one point (a player) and she liked that but now that she controls or leads ITS OVER. MOVE ON.

    STOP making excuses about her working with u. That alone gives you a WAAAAAY EASIER out. You simply have to tell her that HR heard rumors (better yet just mention you heard gossip about u and her ) so u two should chill with the flirting. Your rep at work is important to you etc...

    That way u save some dignity. But seriously, the only one who is making the problem is YOU. STOP liking her. STOP playing her game. Others have told u how. You control your life. Dont play her game if u dont want to.

    And i am totally pissed off right now that u let a woman's flirting stop u from going to work. Thats unacceptable. Sorry if my post seems harsh but thats why.
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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    I'm with lockdown....I mean it's stopping you going to work man up I have to see my ex at uni every day and I was hardcore in love with that girl, but there is no way it's going to stop me going to uni that would be ridiculous, u just gotta move on and deal with it. Pm me if u need help getting over her and I'll link you a thread.

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    Anuks man, I think you heard a unanimous decision here. Just cut her off. All the advice given to you, although worded differently is the same. Just friendzone her, keep cocky funny and HIT ON MORE WOMEN. Simple. Once you decide you don't give a SHIT about her you will recover some of what you've lost.

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    And bro...since she works for you (maybe you are her boss?) best to just stand down...the experts are right-on with their advice...if the neediness things comes out, it works against you as well in the office setting alone...plenty of other gals out there...

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    Default Re: Infatuated with coworker who is a player.

    I don't know about the neediness thing. I just went and told her today, first time seeing her since the party on Saturday, that all I want is just to be friends. I stressed that. That should put an end to the whole thing. She's kind of messed from what I saw on Saturday.

    Furthermore, in order to be "needy" I'd actually have to want her still. After seeing the way she acted at the party, trying to play me and her date at the same time, she just looked like an insecure player with low self esteem. Friend zoning her today, took a tremendous weight off of my shoulders. Respect to hype, for suggesting this.

    I always knew there was something wrong about this chick, I could just never put my finger on it. Saturday, was a tremendous eye opener for me. Now I know.

    I really don't want to talk about this further.
    Thanks

    Oh by the way, I am not really her boss. She is the office admin assistant. I am self employed and she works for our office. My coworkers for the longest time, were trying to "set" us up. I kept, saying that wasn't a good idea.


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