I am madly infatuated with my female coworker. I get the impression that she is just a player. She is my office girl, who helps out with my paperwork. I had asked her out for lunch once before, and she said that she had to take her car in for repairs at lunch. She didn't offer another day, so I left it.
Last night was our staff office party. I had actually rsvpd and was going to take a date. But my date got sick, so I was just going to stay at home.
Well about an hour into the party, one of my coworkers calls me up and asks if I am going. Then my office girl gets on the phone and asks me to come.
So I decided to go dateless. When I get there, I see her with a date. We got a bit drunk and she was flirting with him hard core. But with me as well. A lot of play fighting and she would constantly pretend to bag me. I stole her smokes and then walked up to people and gave them away. She laughed lots about it and then danced. I used lots of Kino, and she didn't pull away. But when I said lets go dance, she wouldn't dance with me, and she didn't dance with her date.
When she leaves, she walks up to me and play slaps me a bunch of times in the face. Then leaves hand in hand with her date. Even though she wouldn't kiss him. (my coworkers asked them too)
Anyways, I want to know how to stop having feelings for her?? I barely go in to the office as it is, because I don't want to see her. My work has suffered greatly, to the point where I am practically broke.
From what I have read, a lot of woman feel its ok to play a man, as a lot of men, just want to screw around. So they see it as fair game.
I would like to transfer, but I am not allowed at the time. I would quit, but this is my career, and I have no where else to go. Should I just tell her how I feel? Is she just a flirt, and having fun? Can I hate her for that? No! But now I have mad feelings for her, and nothing to do about it. Advice??
The only thing I can think to do is call her on it. Next time she flirts with me I will politely say it's not appropriate, and I know what she is doing. And that if she continues, I will complain.