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    Default Workplace escalation?

    Well, I met a few interesting girls around the weekend and I might even have a gf now. So far so good...

    Except for one thing. I am working at a new place now and there is this really cute girl (easy 7 and I have mentioned her in a thread before) who sits in close proximity at 9 0 clock. Around 2 feet away.

    And she looks for every opportunity to talk to me. I feel so 'petrified' at times though, rooted to the spot coz she sits on my left and I am kind of deaf from the left side. She has a really soft voice which makes it difficult for me to know what she is talking 'bot. A real pity.Moreover I nearly lost my last job due to a similar situation.

    Ostensibly, there is some definite attraction here.I love the way she looks at me since she always has this seductive smile curled up at the corner of her lip and her voice trails off when I talk to her. You can see it in those eyes of hers . It's there.

    Although I generally follow a specific rule that one should never engage in sexual or romantic liaisons at the workplace.Regardless , the aforementioned situation has me thinking about breaking this specific rule.The conundrum this puts me in is that it would break the illusion that I am a clark kent -esque boring, workaholic bloke who seems like he is slight neurotic even.



    I know that it is very possible that this whole thing could blow up in my face and I wonder if I can handle this as delicately as possible. Suggestions?

    How exactly do I escalate?



    Is there a specific routine that could help me achieve this?...I am not looking to date her.I just want her phone number. That's all.

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    After that whole speech you want to finish it with a " I just want her phone number that's all?" Lol talk about being honest with yourself.

    Also I'm a bit confused. You said you MIGHT have a gf now? How does that work?

    If she works right next to you, I wouldn't do it. Everything is complicated until you remove temptation. Unless you plan on something drastic, like marrying her, then a fling with her is risky depending on the type of woman she is.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    As you might have been able to gauge....I am not sure where I stand here.

    There is this girl I am seeing. We meet on weekends. It is going great.

    At the same time I am also attracted to my colleague. I am not sure if I should extricate myself from the situation or harmlessly flirt with her. I don't see the harm in getting her number.

    While I have never considered myself bound by moral compunctions and I think of life as a gigantic video game.... However this is by all means probably a bad idea.

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    Yeah, you're being a bit incongruous here. What do you want her number for if you're not going to take her out on a date?

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    It's a little hard to put into words. I look at her in the eyes and the chemistry is instantaneous...If only the circumstances were different. I am not in a committed relationship and I haven't done anything drastic other than making out with the other one yet.I know it doesn't make sense and maybe I am just looking for a valid 'excuse' to do something here.

    Yea Batman is right. My head's a bit messed up now.

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    friendzone her until further notice

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    Human emotions are a strange thing. There are periods in my life where I don't feel a thing at all. I feel like a machine, almost.And yet at times I feel them very strongly. Like in this instance.And I can't handle emotions since I am not very used to them.

    I have been trying to rationalize this over the last few days. I have been friendly and cordial. The walls are crumbling though. The more I talk to her, the more I am attracted. She has a really soft voice. All possible IOIs are there. We flirt a lot but I am trying not to take it anywhere.

    Yesterday she asked me whether I wanted to go out on a trek with her and her friends. She asked me why I am so goddamned quite. So I tell her some bs about having braces and that I felt self conscious about talking while my so called 'personality stuck' on.So she says that I have very nice teeth and she opens her mouth and says "see mine are crooked"....It made me feel a bit awkward but she seems like a very interesting gal and she's funny.

    Okay, I want to date her. The other chick hasn't called in a week. How do I do it?How do I escalate?....I haven't given her any IOIs.I know it is probably a bad idea. Regardless, I have always hated rules even if they were self imposed.I am just a dog chasing cars. I don't care if this thing crashes and burns. I want to do it.

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    I got what I wanted. All I had to do was ask.

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    start by taking her offer to come with, even though you'd be stepping into her world which some people say not to do initially, or at all, you'd be gaining a lot especially by winning over her entire group which is hot then u can find juice if needed

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    Default Re: Workplace escalation?

    What's the deal with the language? I feel like i'm reading strait out of a thesaurus.
    Now to get to the matter at hand, ryuzaki21 u "just" want her phone number cuz u like her, i mean REALLY like her but u're just too afraid that it might be the real thing and u're not ready yet or that u'll screw up or it could be countless other AFC reasons.
    As for the not feeling anything stuff u might wanna see a psychiatrist about that it might be mild depression or go to a psychologist ot JUST SUCK IT UP , BE A MAN AND LET USELF BE HAPPY!
    All this time u've been giving her the cold shoulder and she's been giving u ioi's well the only way to go about it is direct, ask her out. U will have done push/pull at it's best.
    P.S: I have a question does she have more guy friends than girl friends? Give me a brief description of her socialy, and when i say brief i mean brief.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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