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    Default Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    Hey guys,

    So a girl I used to go to college with and was good friends with but never esclated bc I had other girls at the time and she was with another guy hit me up the other day saying "I miss you so much are you going to be home for the holiday break"

    Keep in mind I havent spoken to this girl in 6 months and completely had forgotten about her.

    So anyways we were both going to be back in our hometown in about 3 weeks. Over the next 2 weeks I texted her a few times here and there basically making light plans, (Dinner and Movie) in which she agreed happily and said "yesss cant wait, call me as soon as you get to town!"

    So anyways fast forward 3 weeks and the day before the date I text her "im excited for tommorow! cant wait to see you!"

    She replied "Yesss me too! Call me tommorow and lets plan it all out!"

    Well the next day comes around and I text her around 3 pm and she doesnt reply till around 5 pm saying some bs like "hey sorry ive been busy running errands all day"

    I said "okay no worries, im lookig forward to tonite "

    She said "yess me too!"

    I texted back "Okay perfect, lets plan to meet up around 8ishhh"

    Well 8 pm rolls around and no call or text, so im like fff this, and decided to go out with my friends instead.

    At 1 am she txts me "heyy im sooo sorry, i was just about to call you because I didnt realize you texted back, i feel like such a fool. are you out."

    At this point im already having a great time out with my friends and sent something like "yeaa, no worries, have a good night, catch ya later"

    She responded, "aww im so sorry i didnt get to see you, have a goodnight!"

    So guys WTF!!

    Is this normal shit for a girl to do? Make plans, act all excited, and literally a couple hours before just completely flake and not even have the decency to be upfront about it and instead make up some bs lie?

    If this girl wasnt a HB 10 i wudda completely forgot about it by now... If she texts me again I dont know if I wanna respond or not as its kinda AFC

    Your thoughts?

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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    Dude! She opened up herself to a neg and u failed!

    You should have totally said 'hell yes your a fool... but dont forget rude, flakey and dumb haha'

    HB 10 + horrible flaking = a neg.

    Im sorry but u missed a great opportunity. And to answer... yes flaking is common. But HB10 think they rule the world. So u must call them out on bad behavior. Not in an emotional way... just a fun teasing way.

    If she sets a new date... dont take it as it is. Reschedule it when its good for u. Dont let her get her way.
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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    Actually this kinda sounds genuine to me...

    I've had it before when I've missed texts, plus she has apologised and if what she says is true then she did want to see you.

    but girls do flake for no reason sometimes so you can never tell if its the truth. I'd say that you don't have to neg act a little disappointed and just drop it...

    wait a 3/4 days then re-engage with a light comment, make no mention of the fact she didn't text back.

    The set the date again and proceed as normal... If she does it again then neg hard, basically just call her a time waster and make her work for it if she wants to see you..

    This is advice that I got on here for a similar problem and it worked a treat.

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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    @sidewinder... did your girl ask u to make a date and flake or were u controlling since the beginning?

    Also was she an HB10?
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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    @sidewinder... did your girl ask u to make a date and flake or were u controlling since the beginning?

    Also was she an HB10?
    She was an HB10, I texted her orginally just out of the blue as I was bored at work. Got a text back straight away and after asking me about my girlfriend... ex by that point... she was hinting that I should ask her out.

    We set a date for drinks then she just said she was "stuck at work". I thought it was bs and it might have been.

    I just texted back with something like "oh well... we'll have to do some other time then but you're gonna have to buy me a drink to make up ; )"

    left it at that.

    3 days NC she texted me again. I asked her out again and we went on a date last night. K-close seeing her again on thursday!

    Thing is I know she likes me as a mutual friend let it slip at the pub at the weekend so I had an inside track so to speak.

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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    So really the situation is different than the original posters.

    In his case, there is little to no investment in the relationship. Your girl already knew you had a relationship with someone else and followed up with u about it. She was giving signs of being invested/interested.

    In that case, u have reason to give her another shot... and your doing well so far. When a girl has no investment in a guy, she may just be looking for attention and not be serious.

    Texts of interest from a girl who hasnt seen u in person in a long time should not be taken as seriously than a girl u know who u havent seen in awhile. Especially HB10 lol
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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    Honestly, she could genuinely have been busy or whatever --- stuff happens. But, I think you need to delve a bit more into understanding what makes her "tick". As Sidewinder said, some girls just do this for no "reason". Some women like to get the attention that way, making plans that is. It makes them feel desired.

    However, if you're like "yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah! Lets hang out! You and me!" and trying to really drive home that YOU are specifically making plans with her, she may be less receptive and more likely to flake.

    What I would do is make a plan that you're going to go do something, and invite her to come along with you. Display that it's no big deal if she comes or not, but that you're trying to include her on some part of your life. Good chance she'll be less likely to flake. To really sell it, make sure you comment at some point that you're still going through with your plan regardless (even if you don't actually do said activity).

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    Default Re: Girls flakes last second. Psycho or normal?

    lol good luck in trying to dive deeper into what makes any woman 'tick'...that is a lost cause..this girl could have flaked or could be playing games or who knows...just try to be as indifferent as possible and if this girl texts you again, just play it like you are busy but would like to hang out sometime in the future...


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