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    Default Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    So I'm currently in college and so is my ex GF. We dated for 4 years before splitting because of "long distance" (she goes to another college about 3 hours away.....but I know it was because I was an AFC and the relationship got stale. This was 2 months ago.

    More important back story: she is a virgin, and in our 4 years dating she was certain that she wanted to wait until marriage. In the bedroom we did everything (and I mean everything) but actual sex.

    When we broke up I resisted the urge to contact her and became obsessed with PU, Im actually quite good. These last two months I have had more women in my life than I could ever dream of.

    My ex called me about a month after the break up to see if I wanted to meet for drinks, I agreed and when we did I showed her how much I have improved myself, I became the most interesting person in the bar that night and even had girls coming up to our table. This of corse was all to put on a show for my ex that I really still love and cant get over no matter how many girls I sleep with.

    Anyway tonight she called me (a month later) and wants to know if I still think about her because I never call or text her. I tell her Im staying busy but yes I still think about her. I remain fun and keep her asking questions about me. She tells me that she hopes we will end up together in the future and she cant stop think about me. We end up talking longer than expected and she ends up telling me that she has been very horny lately and wants to loose her virginity. She says their is noone else she would think of loosing it to besides me. We both have winter break from college soon and wants to meet up and screw then.

    I was very taken back and didnt know what to say so pulled so stupid cocky funny sexual joke that actually broke the random tension she brought to the conversation. When she said her proposal I said "thats hard" she said "why would that be hard" and I followed with "im talking about my penis right now". She laughed.

    I then told her that I would love to screw her brains out but she dumped me and she cant just call me for sex now that she wants it.

    She quickly apologized and said that she see how bad that came off. I ended the conversation with a little fun teasing and told her I need to go.

    PROBLEM: I want to sleep with her, I want her back, and even though I have this new skill that has been getting me laid weekly it all is meaningless sex to me. I love her still and do not want to just sleep with her like these other girls and then thats it. I want her back but I know right now in our lives this is not the best time. Any advice...thoughts... comments. I just needed people to hear this problem, I cant stop thinking about it.

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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    well you want to be with her, but in the future. just tell her that and she will understand. and also by doing that, you do not lose interest in her eyes, because you are hard to get. if you think you shouldn't rush into a LTR, i don't see a problem with that. just don't leave it for too long, because she might not always be there. good luck buddy

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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    Quote Originally Posted by TheWhiteBuffalo View Post
    but she dumped me and she cant just call me for sex now that she wants it.

    She quickly apologized and said that she see how bad that came off. I ended the conversation with a little fun teasing and told her I need to go.
    Work on your inner game, stop being affected by her, and figure out what you really want. It sound like you still have pretty strong feelings for her but you aren't totally over the breakup. If you're not over the break up then don't pursue her, but if you're going to pursue her, then don't make her feel guilty for breaking up with you over long distance (long distance rarely - if ever - works).
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    How should I go about improving inner game?

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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    Wait...so you mean to tell me that you were with someone for four years without having sex with them? More power to you. I know I couldn't do it. Lol

    I see 3 options here.

    1: Stick by your standards and cut her off for breaking your heart.

    2: Play hard to get using your new skills. Which could risk someone else coming in and taking her. Doubt it though.

    3. Just go for it! She won't get buyers remorse because you've been together four years and won't think you're just trying to hit and quit.

    However if you just go for it, I wouldn't sexually solve yourself yo her. Keep her guessing about I'd you two were alone, would you really want to sleep with her. If she knows you are down then it's all up to her and she could get LMR.

    Beings that you were together that long I doubt she'd bang you and leave. I wouldn't be surprised if she talked about marriage the day after you seal the deal lol. You're in a good spot my friend so relax.
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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    I was in a situation somewhat like this. High school sweethearts and were together for 4 years. 2 years through college. I took summer school at our university and when I came back home she wanted to have a "talk". basically she wanted to go on a break for a few months. This did not make any sense to me, but basically it ended our relationship. I actually cut her off totally.

    6 months later (both of us having had other partners) we got back together. Now this is the important part so listen up. Our relationship was not the same. I didn't have that feeling of being In Love anymore, and I think it was because I felt she stepped on my heart and the trust had been lost. We kept together for the next 6 months but it really wasn't going to work out so it ended.

    The advice I am going to give you is cut your ties. Women have alternative motives, even the ones that seem caring and innocent. It honostly sounds like she wants her first time to be with someone important, and since you and her didn't work out that spoils her marriage plans and she doesn't want to invest another 4 years with someone else. She might try and use you for sex so she can go on and fark other guys and not feel guilty about giving up her virginity to a douche. Your relationship will definitely not be the same if you do get back together. If you do however, prepare for this not to work, and don't just give your heart to her again for a long time.
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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    Quote Originally Posted by Crystallize View Post
    It honostly sounds like she wants her first time to be with someone important, and since you and her didn't work out that spoils her marriage plans and she doesn't want to invest another 4 years with someone else. She might try and use you for sex so she can go on and fark other guys and not feel guilty about giving up her virginity to a douche.
    This is what I was thinking... she has been contacting me more frequently (even a drunk call the other night). Its odd, if I didn't still care I would fark her in an instant, but since I still do I do not want to be used as a moral airbag for the loss of her virginity.

    Should I call her out on this idea?

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    Default Re: Ex Girlfriend wants to have sex???

    That's the thing. You have to figure out ultimately what you want. Do you want to get her in no bed? Back together to a relationship? Prove a point to her and move on? Or just get to a point where you know you can have her, but won't. Then do what is necessary to reach that goal.
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