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    Default I feel confident after sex w/HB's, but not before.

    I think we all know there's a difference between trying to act confident and really feeling confident and just expressing how you feel. When I'm not feeling confident, I'm analyzing everything I say, I'm unsure of how I really feel about things or how I should respond. When I feel confident I don't think about these things at all, as soon as the other person is done talking I jump right in what my two cents whether it matches up with what they're saying or is the complete opposite.

    I've noticed that this true confidence comes much easier after I've had sex with a girl. And it almost feels like something that's beyond my control. At some points in my life with some people I've been very confident, at other times I feel like a scared little kid.

    Do you guys have any suggestions for transferring that calm, secure confidence you get with people after you've known them for a while to people who you don't know well at all?

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    Default Re: I feel confident after sex w/HB's, but not before.

    easy, look at your signature. the more you start to realize that its a number game, and you shouldnt be caring too much. yes, i urge people to improve their game every chance they get; however the key is doing it a little at a time. read autismus' conversationalist trilogy if yiu need to work on your conversation, and just let it work itself out. the best thing to do is practice simply being friendly with random guys you see at the store or wherever. your not constantly analysing yourself when you talk to guys are you? its all about realizing girls are people too.
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: I feel confident after sex w/HB's, but not before.

    Most guys have been taught to pedestalize hot women, so we get nervous around them like they're some kind of goddesses. In reality they're humans just like us - They still fart, shit, have runny noses, have B.O. if they don't shower, etc. Realizing that they're normal people, too, is the first step.

    The confidence after sex is just a feeling of victory, though. You've managed to charm an attractive woman, and all the work paid off. If you play sports you'll get the same feeling if you train hard for a game and then win. And if you have sex with one HB, chances are you can have sex with another. It might be harder, but it shows that you can display value and confidence, even if it's fake/projected.

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    Default Re: I feel confident after sex w/HB's, but not before.

    I've had similar problem for years before. My guidelines when meeting new people:

    - Most of them you will never meet again. If you fark up, they will not even remember you after an hour. If you make an impression they will. It's only a win situation.
    - You owe them nothing. State what you think in a civilized manner even if it is the complete opposite. Use common sense though.
    - Don't over analyze. A lot of discussions here are about a certain sentence (should I say or think that blahblah). Even if you make mistakes people tend to ignore or forgive those. Just learn from it and don't do it again.
    - Always assume that they are interested and want to talk to you. The question is whether THEY are worth of your time.
    - You never have respond to something you don't want to. It also goes with situations when you don't know what to respond or how to act. Ignore it and change the direction in your favor.
    - Never show disappointment, anger, jealousy or other negative feelings. For sure you will boil inside sometimes but then you can go home later and punch your pillows. Alone.

    Actually had drinks with a friend of mine today and in the middle of a conversation she said that all of her friends like a certain guy. Why? Because he is so comfortable around them.

    Project confidence (not give a fark) => Be comfortable around women => All the ladies will like you.

    In the end your confidence barrier before sex comes to the fact that they have approved you to be inside of them. You view it as a kind of a power tool. You've gained something. Women decide in seconds if they want you or not so forget your artificial limitation of confidence as there really isn't any.

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    Default Re: I feel confident after sex w/HB's, but not before.

    Thanks a lot for the replies. Not caring how interactions went today while talking to a couple hb's helped a lot. I mean, I'm talking to a couple girls now and there's millions more to find so what's there to be worried about? And batsy, I can totally see how not giving a fuck and creating a comfortable chill situation will go miles in attracting women.


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