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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Quote Originally Posted by lvrs View Post
    bandit!

    been chatting to a HB8 for a few months after kiss/number closing. we've met once since (about a month back) and had fun, she came back to mine and we cuddled up but didnt kiss cause she was ill. We havent met since though cause shes usually at home instead of uni

    She makes effort to chat and flirt but when i ask to meet.. granted her excuses are valid but she doesnt offer alternatives or seem overly fussed and moves conversation on. how can i push harder/spell it out without sounding keen? cant really be bothered anymore just texting.

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    I'm guessing you see her on a semi-regular basis around school. Instead of trying to set something up ahead of time try and switch to an insta-date the next time you see her. Chat her up, flirt, kino, then invite her to go get coffee with you since you were just on your way there anyways. Should work better for you.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Quote Originally Posted by OhSnap View Post
    Yo' Bandit, you got skills and you might rememba' my arse.

    Gimme your take on Do's and Don't's with girls, GO!

    Do comment on her new haircut. Chicks like that.
    Don't comment on her new menstrual cycle. Chicks don't like that.

    Do touch the small of her back when walking with her.
    Don't touch her with the small of your back. (exception: you've got some sexy junk in your badunkadunk and she's ready to kick them nasty thoughts)

    Do switch your gaze from her eyes, to her lips, to her nose, to her eyes again, to her lips, etc.
    Don't switch your gaze from her eyes, to her lips, to her boobs, to those shiny new earings, to that squirrel, to that fat guy picking his nose, to that bouncing ball, to that...what were we talking about?

    Do wear tight shirts that show off your physique.
    Don't wear tights.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Quote Originally Posted by Richy View Post
    Sorry for the very big post but it's a very big problem!!!!!!!!

    Hi


    Got a bit of a problem I need help with that I really cant seem to get past. I'm 28 (look younger) and been into Pick Up now for about 8 months and have read a lot of material and practised a fair bit too. But I think I have a problem that a lot of aspiring pua's must have.


    Quick bit of of background. I did reasonably well with girls before I knew about the community. I'm 6ft tall, over 12 stone and fairly muscular and I'm told that I'm a good looking guy. Second reason I did ok was I kind of already had a natural pua personality by Prizing, teasing, not showing too much interest etc before I knew the terms. Wouldn't have said I was a natural but better than most.


    So if we went on a night out and there was girls in our group I wouldn't have a problem getting with one of them. Or I have never had a problem getting girls at work attracted to me. Since I now know the terms and reasons I understand now that this was because I had chance to DHV and get to the hook point. But on the cold approach in night game I really struggle to get to that hook point. I know that I am progressing well by accentuating the parts of my personality we know girls are attracted to I can't seem to improve here at all. On some occasions when I do get with a girl, I know this is more because of my looks than anything else and sometimes before I have even say much!


    I know to subtly DHV by talking about girls in your life and showing pre-selection etc but not in a bragging way, while showing non-neediness and have a outcome independence (all the basics)


    I generally try to say indirect openers (I feel these are congruent to my personality) and some opinion ones and have a good selection, saying them confidently, good body language, don't show too much interest etc and feel I do all the basics correctly but I cant seem to transition from opener to DHV very well and get to that hook point. This is despite a lot of approaches.


    This seems by far the hardest part of pick up so I was wondering if there were any lines, tips etc to help me display value quickly and get to that hook point?


    (Know it's a long question but though it best you know the details)
    Thanks a lot
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    First of all, I have no idea why you feel the need to own 12 stones. I don't have any stones, and I don't see the need for them. At most you should only need 1 or 2 stones for paper weights and whatnot.

    Now to your other problem. Have you ever thought that maybe night game isn't your forte? You've got the looks, you know all your basics and how to make a conversation work for you. All your success so far has been during the day, like your female friends and coworkers. So why, when all the signs are saying you're better at picking up chicks during the day, are you trying to pick them up at night, where you can't talk to them, and have had minimal success?

    Learn the basics of day game, try picking up chicks in your every day life, and if after that you feel like you want to go back to night game you can talk to me then.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    With that last one... you are right but shouldnt he do things that seem uncomfortable in order to grow? To me, my game gets stale after awhile if i stick to what works for a long time.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    With that last one... you are right but shouldnt he do things that seem uncomfortable in order to grow? To me, my game gets stale after awhile if i stick to what works for a long time.
    Yeah but it's no good challenging him if he hasn't got a stable footing. That's like throwing junkballs to a 5 year old who just started playing Tee ball while screaming "challenges make you stronger you lazy midget. Now hit the ball!"
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Im sure you get asked this a lot and i have asked this on here before but i would like your input on the subject Bandit. Vibing Intent is qualification right? And is qualification best done by asking her stuff like What separates you from most girls, and I only talk to fun girls so whats the craziest thing you've done lately... ect. If not then whats the best way to qualify her, getting her to qualify herself to you or you qualifying her?
    Any of you guys in the Dayton Oh area let me know and we will sarge.

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Hey bandit, you probably hear these ex girlfriend stories all the time, but being the first real relationship I've genuinely tried to keep and cared about, I'm kind of lost on what to do...any kind of advice would be awesome.

    I'll be completely honest, I haven't gotten over my ex and I haven't spoken to her in a couple weeks..

    I broke up with her telling her I wouldn't speak to her again, but i caved and showed up at her doorstep..guess what? crying..yeah reverting to a beta bitch AFC explaining my actions..

    Strangely she still seemed attracted, gave me the doggy dish look and i kinoed her hard grabbing her waits, hips, and butt..she even threw in pet names which was surprising because she went cold weeks prior.I tried to kiss her but she pulled away saying she wanted us to be "Cool" and i said ok and quit trying. We made a date for two days later a little hike nothing too crazy...

    So the day comes I text her something along the lines of "hello lovely hump, ready for today? " she replies "Hey writhe, i don't think I'm going to be able to hang out today after all, sorry" i just say "it's cool"...left it at that, i haven't communicated to her in about two weeks, I'm more than positive this chick has feelings for me still but just doesn't want to show them (she was a virgin when i got to her, if that helps). Should i keep trying to contact her or just wait for the day she does?

    theres also an artwalk that her friends and my friends always go to, so if anything i can see her face to face there also...

    like I said bro, any kind of advice would be awesome

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    I've really just started to take steps into pick-up, so far I can have a fun, interesting conversation with anyone. How do I start creating attraction?
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    ive noticed that ive been getting in my own way of success with women. that little voice in your head telling you what you should have done, or didnt do right, or need to do. How do you turn that self criticizing voice off?

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    From what i have been taught that voice does not go away. You learn how to ignore it after a while tho. There are some gurus that focus on things like that(Steve P. and Rasputin) so you should check them out. They teach some exercises on how to get past that.
    Any of you guys in the Dayton Oh area let me know and we will sarge.


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