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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Hi Bandit, here comes a different kind of question. I'm new to this. I'm a 49 yr old man, divorced almost 2 yrs ago. My ex got caught in an affair and we ended up divorcing. We have 2 girls, 9 & 12. I hate being divorced. Being married 13 years, I have been out of the dating world forever.

    Over the past 1.5 yrs, I have enjoyed using a lot of these techniques to PU girls in their mid 20's. As nutty as this sounds, I want to see if I can get my ex-wife back. I didn't use any of these techniques to get her back in the late 90's when we dated nor after we were married.

    A little more background: She has been dating a guy for the past 13 months (I think she's in love with him but their relationship is complicated). He's recently moved about 3 hrs out of town & they now rarely see each other. He has 3 kids, she has 2 & I just don't see her wanting to be a Mom to 5 kids, lol. She doesn't even enjoy living for our 2 girls

    I get to see her just about as often as I want to. At this point, I've been WAY to nice to her & she knows I want her back. I've given her way too much power.

    I think she "looks at me a certain way" when we're alone & she's had some wine but I haven't made a pass at her yet.

    OK, my question is how to get her into bed? I think I can get her to want to reconcile if I do. Should I treat her like any other girl or does our history require a different approach?

    Thanks wise sage!

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    My thoughts are take away the power control the frame. Sick of dancing like a marionette. Then start pulling the strings. You need her to be the one crawling back to you. So just need to act as you accept things as they are and are moving on. Don't qualify yourself she had the affair. Besides that you do realize that if you do get her back you can only expect these same results.

    So up to you if you want to make peace with what is, fake making peace or keep dancing like a puppet.

    But bandit correct me if I am wrong

    Also nothing gets a cougar more jealous than younger competition ( food for thought)
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Agree with hometownextra. Does she know you've been dating ? I feel like that's a dhv. Reminds me of "Crazy, Stupid Love" with Steve Carrell , you should watch it if you haven't already

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Alright Bandit

    Recently I have been pursing this girl that has a bf that is in another country. However, we both are into each other but I do not know how to make the move properly from friend/ person she is interested in, to the ultimate goal of a kiss close. I have been trying to make her jealous by flirting with other girls in front of her and not giving her any attention (since most immature 18 year olds respond to that). At this point I do not know whether to continue with making her jealous or should I continue to pursure her as my target. What do you think?

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    First hone your skills,then find the angle of attack or approach you wish to go with then do it. You have the advantage of guy in other country that is keeping her off the market. Until you find the approach you want use the cat string theory to keep the attraction pull her attention I up to you then back down before she second guesses if she is playing too close to the fire.

    That is my opinion

    And yes keep flirting with other girls in front of her, if you make progress with them a lot it if nothing else gives you good social proof and may make her a little jealous. Not to mention you can do what you want you aren't dating her yet anyway.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Ok I will try that out. Thanks! But don't get me wrong, I am not trying to make her my girlfriend. I want to be a PUA, she is just a HB that I want to kiss close at least. That usually is my forte, kiss closing, I actually struggle with the transition from making out to sealing the deal. Any advice with that or routines that have worked for any of you in the past?

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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    This always work the trick if I want to kiss close...I ask
    her between kissing and cuddling what
    does she prefer..It doesn't matter what she
    gonna choose what matters is this..after
    she responds..I will say I prefer cuddling
    and move in for it..after this I will sniff
    her hair and comment on how good she
    smells(girls are turned on by guys who
    sniff them,lick them, both nimble and
    whisper in their ears)..after 2 minutes
    straight..I can be sure to move for kiss
    close with less rejection
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Quote Originally Posted by psmcpher View Post
    Hi Bandit, here comes a different kind of question. I'm new to this. I'm a 49 yr old man, divorced almost 2 yrs ago. My ex got caught in an affair and we ended up divorcing. We have 2 girls, 9 & 12. I hate being divorced. Being married 13 years, I have been out of the dating world forever.

    Over the past 1.5 yrs, I have enjoyed using a lot of these techniques to PU girls in their mid 20's. As nutty as this sounds, I want to see if I can get my ex-wife back. I didn't use any of these techniques to get her back in the late 90's when we dated nor after we were married.

    A little more background: She has been dating a guy for the past 13 months (I think she's in love with him but their relationship is complicated). He's recently moved about 3 hrs out of town & they now rarely see each other. He has 3 kids, she has 2 & I just don't see her wanting to be a Mom to 5 kids, lol. She doesn't even enjoy living for our 2 girls

    I get to see her just about as often as I want to. At this point, I've been WAY to nice to her & she knows I want her back. I've given her way too much power.

    I think she "looks at me a certain way" when we're alone & she's had some wine but I haven't made a pass at her yet.

    OK, my question is how to get her into bed? I think I can get her to want to reconcile if I do. Should I treat her like any other girl or does our history require a different approach?

    Thanks wise sage!
    Um Ok so she cheated on you and doesn't like raising her own kids? Why in the hell do u want her back? Especially if you're dating other younger girls???

    A girl who cheated on you already has power over u. She basically said I dont care about my husband and screwed another guy. If u go back, u are basically saying that's ok honey I forgive u... But guess what? It,ll give her freedom to do it again.

    And the fact that she ain't a good mom or whatever makes her toxic. Wake up man! You maybe in a lull and just need a cool girl to talk to. She out there! Keep gaming! But I am almost a million percent sure it ain't your ex wife.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    I agree with lockdown completely..Go out there and game some girls out there-your ex is not worth your time
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    Default Re: I'm Bandit, ask me anything!

    Okay so im considered attractive and usuallt hot women like me but im to shy . I have female friends but with girls i like im terrified. Theres this one girl in the dorms i live in that stares me down. I see her eating or on the way to classIve never been in a relationship cause of my fear. I learned that one of my close friends i met here knows her somewhat. Im a preety cool and funny guy i just go braindead alot. Ive had alot of chances to talk to her already i just am tired of fucking myself over year and year out. Should i like say hey one day when i pass her then have my mutual friend drop my name in


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