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    MidwesternGuy12 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Girlfriend looking for committment. Feelings for friend holding me back

    Read through several articles, just want your guys' take on the situation I am going through. To put into context, I am 29 year old man. I've been dating my current girlfriend for almost 1 year. She's a very pretty blonde ex college athlete. By all means I SHOULD be head over heels for her and she is looking for a long term/permanent commitment. Hard truth is that I day dream about ending up with a good girlfriend of mine. I think this is holding me back from moving forward with my g/f, fear of 'if only I tried' regret. There is some sexual tension between friend and I but honestly I would say its 65/45 in favor of 'friend zone' only for me. Mutual friends say she talks about my g/f and I a lot and something is definitely there but don't know how strong. Might be she's just jealous someone else has my attention.

    Bottom line is I gotta make a decision. G/F is too good a girl to keep on the hook like this. Only live once so gotta buck up at some point....but what is the best way to approach my friend? Coming out with some weak lines isn't going to cut it! Do I just take her in my arms and straight kiss her and see what happens or what?!?!? Advice would be GREAT!

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    Default Re: Girlfriend looking for committment. Feelings for friend holding me back

    "Capitan, we have a faulty mindset near quadrant alpha midwesternguy12."

    "Ok ready the repair drones. See if we can fix it up a bit."

    You SHOULD be head over heals for her? What is this 'should' you speak of? When it comes to becoming serious with a gf, you should that it is 100% right. not 95%. not 97.5%. 100%. If you are non-exclusive (which I hope you are) ask your friend out on a date. At worst she will definitely friendzone you, then you can move on knowing this is a certainty. Then you can move up with your GF. heck, why not go for Mltr?
    "My enemies are advanced, bold, intelligent and powerful. But I am evolved"
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    MidwesternGuy12 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Girlfriend looking for committment. Feelings for friend holding me back

    My bad about the verbiage, I'm obviously new to this forum.

    To clarify a few things. My g/f and I are exclusive but right now she can tell I am holding back from her and it is really tearing her apart. By saying I 'should' be absolutely in love with her is just a way of saying that on paper (if such a thing existed), she has it all. I have always had a thing for my friend but tried to bury it and move on with my life as she was engaged at the time we met, married briefly and now divorced. I thought I had conquered this feeling. Feelings came back stronger than ever right now as I have a chance to get truly serious with someone yet I freak out because it means I am giving up on someone I truly love.

    I have done a pretty good job of not being my friends crutch. I have been supportive and there when she needed me but would tell her that she messed up or is in the wrong. She literally told me I am a horrible at being a crutch. I am already in the friend zone if you can't tell.

    My question to the expert is: what would be the best way to find out if she (my friend) has similar feelings I do? Obviously already dug myself a huge hole. But I do have to know one way or the other so I can move on with or without her. I want to be a man about this. Won't apologize to her if the feelings aren't mutual.


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