I know a HB9 who is a good friend of my ex (also HB9, but most girls think she is THE HB10) who is dating someone else now. HB9 dated one of my good friends for a month before my friend dumped her and has gone back to dating his previous ex long-term. Now I think HB9 has not been in a romantic/sexual relationship for a few months now, it's even possible that she is not completely over her ex (the friend of mine who I mentioned above).
We were not friends or anything, just said hello when we met and smiled at each other but that's it. In the past months she has started to like my facebook photos and activity. In November we met at a Halloween party where she started to flirt with me hard (she was drunk, so was I), than we kissed on the dancefloor for at least 1 hour, I touched her wherever I wanted, I even started to stimulate her through her tights and she put her hand in my pants. I know, I should have gone for more immediately as she lived 10 minutes from the party, but I became too drunk to make the move. I told her that this affair should stay between the 2 of us and she accepted (I was not sure of my friend's reception of this)
We walked to her place with her girlfriends and 2 of them slept at her's (they mentioned it before). When we walked I didn't talk to HB9, I was chatting with another girl, when we said goodbye I wanted to say bye with 2 kisses on the cheek (thats the trend in my culture) but she kissed my lips in front of everyone. By this time she seemed really drunk.
Then half an hour later she called one of her girlfriends who was with me that 'she is sending me a warm greeting'.
Now it might seem that all went well, but this was more than a month ago now and we haven't made much contact since then. For like 2 weeks I did not have enough time to set up a date for us, then when I had time I 'asked her out' like this:
Me: Hi Girl A, we're meeting today at Xy at 9.00, you and me. You don't have to wear the cat costume you wore last time but dont disappoint me[I
(i think this was a good opening message)
HB9: Hi *mitkoberba*, i'll be at Xy at 9.00, Girl B and me. I'll have to disappoint you[
I messaged her one and a half hour before the planned date. I read her message but I haven't replied to that, since then we bumped into each other in a party which was almost ending where she was dancing with some other guy (the younger brother of her ex!), we smiled at each other and said hello but my friend told me that he spotted her looking at me on the dancefloor. I dont remember too well, but I think I was a bit AFC that night not trying to talk to her, it was simply not my day...
We haven't talked since then and another 2-3 weeks has passed. She liked some of my facebook activity, but I dont think thats a big deal because usually a lot of people like my photos and statuses.
How to progress from here? I thought I would just repeat the way I tried to set up a date the first time. 'Hey HB9, I'm taking you out to skating on Tuesday. We're meeting at 19:02 at the entrance, dont break my heart this time (come up with some cocky funny if you have a more creative one). Someone adviced that I shouldn't ask her out on a date just take her with my friends to have some drinks or party.
My dilemma is that I might have waited for too long and it will come out of nowhere for her - on the other hand, I think it shows that her rejection didn't shake my confidence.
This is more or less the first time when I try to go direct and make sure that a girl feels that I want to be more than friends.
[I have already sent this message in private to some of the best posters I know here, got some decent answers, but I'm still not sure what to do. I don't want to blow this.]
Update: this girl feels extremely cheated, I know this from a mutual friend. We should might consider this as this may change my plan to get her.