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    Default Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Hey guys,

    I need your opinion on something. I recently started working in a big company, and after a few weeks I got interested in an older woman than me. I'm in my early twenties and she is in her late twenties, 27-29. I have an average experience with women, used to date a lot but only with women at my age or a few years younger. I don't know how to approach her or if she would be interested at all in a younger guy, I caught her glancing at me several times but when she was caught she didn't maintain eye contact and glanced away almost instantly. Also we often met in bathroom or in the lounge room but never talked, and now it seemed that she avoided to be in the same room with me lately. Additionally, she was the only woman in the office (around 30+ women) that had never spoken to me, not even a 'goodmorning' or 'hi'.
    That was until a week ago. There was a company event and we happened to sit next to each other. After some time passed she turned to me and she starting asking questions about me, and mentioned that she already knows my name. I looked in her eyes when I answered in calm and deep voice and her pupils were dilated, which is a sign of interest as far as I know. She touched me a few times accidentally while moving her body around the table and she said she was sorry a few times, I acted indifferent and just nodded my head. After we left we were both in a group of people returning home using the subway, she asked me were I live and how I'm going to return home.

    While in the subway, I stood in the on side of it while she stood on the other with a bunch of unknown people and people from work between us. When the our colleagues left she turned her back to me (many meters separated us) and stood beside the door of the wagon.

    Since then we've just only said hi to each other a couple of times at work.

    So , what do you say? Is it possible that she is attracted to me? Because I'm kinda getting all kinds of mixed signals here. Was she just polite and friendly or she might be interested? Are there any tips you could offer that would help me find out? And if she's interested in me, how should I proceed from here?

    Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for any answers.

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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Yes she's interested! Ask for her number lol!

    Always assume attraction. She has taken steps forward in getting to know u (great sign). But YOU must keep advancing.

    What did u guys talk about? What is she interested in? Use that to ask for her number. Or tell her u want to share a funny pic with her because you thought she had a good sense of humor. Ex. she said she likes the beach. Show her some pictures of beautiful beaches and ask her opinion which would be a good wallpaper on your phone. If she sees one she really likes, discuss it like your making plans to visit there together (whats the first thing u would do there?)

    Then tell her she should have the pic since she likes it so much and ask for her number. Tell her to make that pic your picture for your number.

    But let this thing happen naturally. Dont go directly to her desk. Be prepared to see her on the fly and mention to her you want to ask her something later. This will create a bit of mystery. Then follow up as above.

    This situation also reminds me of my post in the thread 'ranking hotties by difficulty' where i mention women who work with u. U might want to check it out.
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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Yes she's interested! Ask for her number lol!

    Always assume attraction. She has taken steps forward in getting to know u (great sign). But YOU must keep advancing.

    What did u guys talk about? What is she interested in? Use that to ask for her number. Or tell her u want to share a funny pic with her because you thought she had a good sense of humor. Ex. she said she likes the beach. Show her some pictures of beautiful beaches and ask her opinion which would be a good wallpaper on your phone. If she sees one she really likes, discuss it like your making plans to visit there together (whats the first thing u would do there?)

    Then tell her she should have the pic since she likes it so much and ask for her number. Tell her to make that pic your picture for your number.

    But let this thing happen naturally. Dont go directly to her desk. Be prepared to see her on the fly and mention to her you want to ask her something later. This will create a bit of mystery. Then follow up as above.

    This situation also reminds me of my post in the thread 'ranking hotties by difficulty' where i mention women who work with u. U might want to check it out.
    Totally agree.

    I'm probably in the same age range as you bilvar_dragon. I've been finding, that I usually get sexual attraction and even approached by women 27 to 40 A LOT.

    I would approach with what Lockdown said in the lounge at your work.

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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Thank you both for the resopnses.

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    What did u guys talk about? What is she interested in? Use that to ask for her number. Or tell her u want to share a funny pic with her because you thought she had a good sense of humor. Ex. she said she likes the beach. Show her some pictures of beautiful beaches and ask her opinion which would be a good wallpaper on your phone. If she sees one she really likes, discuss it like your making plans to visit there together (whats the first thing u would do there?)
    We didn't talk too much because there were common friends from work at the table. The small talk we had only involved her questions about me, which were about work such as what I do, when does my internship end and whether I would be staying with them after my internship or not. Then we got interrupted by the others and didn't have any other talk between us.

    The problem with this whole situation is that any of my moves should not be interpreted as direct hitting on her by either my colleagues or her. I don't mind getting rejected by a woman I met at a bar, but this one is a whole other story cause we work together and the situation could get really awkward. I need to approach her in small and steady steps so that she kinda makes the first move...I don't mean asking me for my number or asking me out, just give me strong signs that she wants me to do that.

    From what I can tell she is a very closed and private person, she rarely talks much with people and is very focused in her job. The only chance I got I think is cracking her up with some humor in the lounge room or
    if we meet in the bathroom.

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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    I agree with your worries. I discuss it in that thread i mentioned in my post.

    You have to set a goal. What do u want out of this relationship? Your original post made it seem like you were interested in her so i advised accordingly.

    But it is very important to know what you want. Its easier to stay focused if you do.

    Edit: IMHO she has already given u signs. Do the number thing is mentioned...make it personal to her of course. Trust me, she will give u her number. If she does not, she may need more time.
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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Yeap, you got it right, I'm really interested in her. I would like to date her for starters, and if she's relationship material keep her around..

    The goal I have for now is to get to know her better and make her want to know me better. Well, I'm not doing a very good job atm since it took 2,5 months to get her to talk to me.

    Today we met in bathroom early in the morning, she was sleepy and almost bumped onto me because the space is confined and after she realized who it was she acted like she saw a ghost. She said goodmorning after I bypassed her and made my way in the men's room. I replied from inside . Really funny moment for me.

    I'll try your advice to build up before asking for her number.
    I really think there is tension between us, I only feel it with her when at work, lets hope its mutual

    Btw, could you direct me to your post with a link?

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    Default Re: Opinion in my situation with a slightly older woman

    Read your post. I think I'm doing exactly what you said since I started working there. Now I'm on the stage that I'll have to keep her interested without kissing her ass I guess.

    Btw I forgot to mention that she saw me get into my car with another girl, around my age from work who has shown interest but I don't, she is hot but a little bit boring. It wasn't clear if we were dating or if I was just giving her a ride(which I was). I sure know that it would be a positive thing with another woman who would be younger or same age, but with the older chick I have no idea.


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