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    Smoothie915 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Great first date, fearing being friend zoned... Tips?

    Het guys. I met this girl on the train and we used to go to college together. Long story short, we hit it off on the train and planned a lunch date for later in the week. The date went really well and she kept saying, how she wanted to go out again. She was showing some kino such as touchin my shoulder while talking, touched my head to feel my hair once. I played it pretty cool and used the first date as a get to know if I'm even interested in her type deal. Returned a little kino like touching her shoulder as we left the restaraunt. She mentioned that she has a boyfriend and is going to break up with him... And that she wants to date someone sober (in sober and we talked about this during the date). Anyway I drop her off at home... We hugged but I didn't try to K-close (due to hearing she has a boyfriend... Felt too risky even though she was talking about breaking up with him). Her last words getting out of my car were, "so many possibilities of things we can do together!"

    Today I texted her "aloha beautiful, how's your doggy?" (Her dog was in the hospital)

    Her: "he's good we are picking him up today"

    Me: "right on, I'm glad to hear that"

    End.


    Feel like her short response might be an indication that interest maybe starting to wane. Any tips on how to proceed?

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    rebelwithacause is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Great first date, fearing being friend zoned... Tips?

    Quote Originally Posted by Smoothie915 View Post
    Het guys. I met this girl on the train and we used to go to college together. Long story short, we hit it off on the train and planned a lunch date for later in the week. The date went really well and she kept saying, how she wanted to go out again. She was showing some kino such as touchin my shoulder while talking, touched my head to feel my hair once. I played it pretty cool and used the first date as a get to know if I'm even interested in her type deal. Returned a little kino like touching her shoulder as we left the restaraunt. She mentioned that she has a boyfriend and is going to break up with him... And that she wants to date someone sober (in sober and we talked about this during the date). Anyway I drop her off at home... We hugged but I didn't try to K-close (due to hearing she has a boyfriend... Felt too risky even though she was talking about breaking up with him). Her last words getting out of my car were, "so many possibilities of things we can do together!"

    Today I texted her "aloha beautiful, how's your doggy?" (Her dog was in the hospital)

    Her: "he's good we are picking him up today"

    Me: "right on, I'm glad to hear that"

    End.


    Feel like her short response might be an indication that interest maybe starting to wane. Any tips on how to proceed?

    Okay first of all to quote the movie Just Friends "Don't do lunch it's like the express lane to the friend's zone".

    Another quote relating to that which is applicable to this situation is "Call her right now, move that day date to tonight, play the entire thing aloof and no matter what you do kiss her at the end, because friend's don't kiss".

    Anyways to be specific I think you have a good thing going here. She doesn't seem to be losing interest though this is a tricky situation you are in regarding her boyfriend and such. I suggest setting up another date with her as of right now. Don't worry too much about the short text, be confident in your abilities it sounds like she is interested.

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    Default Re: Great first date, fearing being friend zoned... Tips?

    It is hard to judge, and I might be wrong but it seems like you are driving yourself straight into the friend zone. You are building rapport without attraction it seems. I mean dude, she has a boyfriend I get it, but you should be flirting with her. You should be KINO escalating, not just touching her shoulder and talking about your sobriety. She wants to be touched, kissed. Go for it. Also your texts are lacking.

    Read this:

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html

    and

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...ing-guide.html

    So in sum, make your texts fun, spontaneous. Do not come off needy. You are Alpha. Keeping with that, build attraction through flirting, cocky funny, DHV.

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    Smoothie915 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Great first date, fearing being friend zoned... Tips?

    Thanks guys. A couple days after this I sent another text "hey are you missing a green thermos?" (She left her thermos in my car). It has been 3 days and no response.... I think it is a no go (although I could be over reacting to the no response).

    Also I realized a big error I made... I said "aloha beautiful" in an earlier text. No bueno, this builds her up when really I should be building myself up in her eyes while deflating her ego... She needs to think I am taking time out of my busy day to text her. I think I ruined this one but definitely learned something. Ill send her a quick feeler soon and just say "hey you" and not respond for a day.


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