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Thread: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

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    Default Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    So Im relieving AA lately. Any girl that even makes the briefest eye contact (and I only check out HB7-10s honestly) I try to make an approach.

    Was checking out some groceries and this sexy girl and her cute friend went to order coffee at the starbucks in the store and I caught the hotter ones eye.

    I left the store put my shit in the car and immediately went back in to "order coffee".

    I was totally nonchalant and just came up behind them like "hey, whats good right now, what should I get?" "Im really tired and I just need something to wake me up that tastes bomb too"

    The hotter one beamed with a huge smile and got all shy saying she didnt know so i turned to her cute black friend and asked her what she thought, she got all shy too, so instead pf making it awkward i just asked her what she got and said "alright thats it then, thats the one it better be good!"

    I could tell they both kinda dug the approach by their smiling and giggling, but maybe they didnt because they didnt really give me an answer? Or were they just shy.

    Also, I just turned n waited to order and they got their drinks and left. Obviously I wanted to ask them out or to come grab a drink later but I didnt know how to go about it cuz there was 2 and I had f'd up the flow by stopping the convo and waiting to order with my back to them.

    What could I have said to number close and mybe get them to meet me and my boys for a drink later?

    Do you think my approach was pretty alpha or just so-so? How do you typically approach a couple of coffee shop hotties?

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    u placed indirect pressure on ur target... it was obvious to the set who the target was. >.<

    classic move is to open set like u did - but cater to her friend who can respond with no pressure on her shoulders.

    but u did great otherwise. they just were so flattered and surprised by the situation, all they could do was laugh and laugh.

    Cheers.^^

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    Can you explain more? I dont get what you said exactly.

    I wanted one and I initially made it directed toward her, but she couldnt decide so I turned to her friend and asked her instead and then took that same ones order and copied it. Basically the one I made eye contact with that caused me to come over I immediately turned away from and the rest was between me and her friend. Was that wrong? Youre saying I put indirect pressure on the one I had made eye contact with that made me go over?

    Definitely interested in what you mean just want to make sure I understand right and dont flip flop things!

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    I could tell they both kinda dug the approach by their smiling and giggling, but maybe they didnt because they didnt really give me an answer? Or were they just shy. Also, I just turned n waited to order and they got their drinks and left.

    Well what did you expect them to do? "Gee, thanks for coming and approaching us, Sly! That was awfully nice of you! Say, would you like to have both of our numbers? Here, let us write them down for you and you can call us up later for a threesome."

    No. That's not how it works. You need to put in work. You approached and opened. Any idiot (I'm not calling you an idiot) can do that. You've got to lead the interaction and direct the flow. Of course there's always the off chance that they're stupid (a lot of them are), but we can't just assume that from the start.

    Obviously I wanted to ask them out or to come grab a drink later but I didnt know how to go about it cuz there was 2 and I had f'd up the flow by stopping the convo and waiting to order with my back to them.

    What are you afraid of? Select your target. It's like a video game. The clock's ticking and you have to pick Sub Zero or Scorpion. After thirty seconds the computer makes you choose whoever you're on. If you can't decide maybe you should assume a similar mindset.

    What could I have said to Number Close and mybe get them to meet me and my boys for a drink later?

    Assumptive Number Close. You're running daygame as a basis for nightgame? ...and how's that working out for you?

    Do you think my approach was pretty alpha or just so-so? How do you typically approach a couple of coffee shop hotties?

    You were a bottle rocket at a fireworks show. You made a bang and fizzled out. You didn't go the distance. That's not saying it was bad though. You've obviously got a lot of good things going for you because this interaction seemed to run pretty smoothly, just some calibrating and fine tuning would make your game top notch.

    Me? I go direct.

    Last words: Realize there is a huge difference between coffee shop girls and girls who drink coffee. There is an over 50% chance that a girl sitting down at a coffee shop WANTS to be approached. That's why she's there. That's why a statistical majority of women go to sit down at coffee shops. There's also a 100% chance that the girl in line just wants her coffee and to get the f*ck out of there. Guys who don't say it is a numbers game are lying to themselves. Just take that into consideration the next time you approach. If she's sitting down there's a good chance you can fail multiple times and she'll make excuses to herself for why you suck. If she's standing up it's going to be much higher pressure. But hey, overall good job.
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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    Thanks cody. Helps a bunch.

    Maybe you could help me figure out wht Yoki mean by this:
    "u placed indirect pressure on ur Target... it was obvious to the Set who the target was. >.<"

    Also, when you said "assumptive number close" what exactly do you mean? Can you elaborate as well as maybe give an example of a line I couldve used to select my target and start to number close but not mention meeting up later that night?

    Thanks again man, I see your name around and you definitely always give good advice, and I dont mind the kind of dick attitude, I too get joy from being that way and I think its necessary to get the point across better so thx

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    Haha, thanks man. I like being a d*ck. It makes life a lot more fun.

    As for Yoki's indirect statement, in a set beyond one you want to put pressure on the other people in the group as a way to build tension and attraction with your target. If you're going direct then by all means be a straight shooter, but typically indirect means ignoring your target at first as a way to get her to validate & qualify herself. When you put indirect pressure on your target, especially right off the bat, it can create a weird dynamic and send odd vibes.

    As for the number close, Kino's is on here--right Here. For mine you'd have to jump on my blog, located in the signature, but seeing how I derived mine from his it's not much different. I'd post it on here but Bill has asked me not to double publish and I respect that. The man has given us an awesome website. Gotta respect da rules.
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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    i think Cody is more spot on... these girls are in line so u'd have to be more direct. ur working on a short time to hook them - get that # - and eject on a high note

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    ^Don't sell yourself short though Yoki. You know what you're talking about.
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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    @Sly

    "indirect pressure" - even tho u did not directly speak to ur target, she already knew u wanted her. it placed pressure on her shoulders to react - and i'm not sure she's use to ur approach.

    GL

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    Default Re: Coffee Girls...What Did I do Wrong/Right?

    Perfect thanks again man always a pleasure


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