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Thread: Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

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    Default Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

    Used one of my meet up texts last week on the girl that I want to have an LTR with:

    "Dear ____, you are cordially invited to (movies/bar/etc) at (time). (Dinner/Lunch) will be served. Sincerely, (name).

    PS - (inside joke)"

    She was busy that day, so I told her we should hang out before the semester ends. She immediately asked me what I was doing on Thursday. I said I was free and asked her what the plans were. She said to surprise her, so I did just that.

    Met up for sushi. I paid for her (not really AFC; I was brought up this way ). It went really well - she kept laughing, smiling, the conversation going, etc. Got to the point where she said she'd like to try my cooking, so I invited her over after finals.

    Walked back to the train, and she brought up "blowing up my kitchen" before I leave the country for a bit. Good, right?

    Anyway, I texted her a funny pic over the weekend at 3am and she turned out to be awake. She was at a concert and boasted about how her night was more exciting than mine. I said something like this:

    "How about I take you out one of these nights and you'll see that it's more exciting than a concert? "

    No reply. At all. I texted some nonsense to her late last night and she was awake (unexpected again). Called her out in a joking manner about not replying and she said that I "tried to compete with the concert." This is where I farked up:

    "Haha, I think I can compete with the concert =p
    Beside, you haven't tried my cooking yet! "

    Her:
    "I don't like arrogance "

    Crash and burn! I took it as a polite rejection. Recovered:

    "Arrogance? Ouchhhhhh. Thought you appreciated sarcasm? Lol" SUPER BETA

    She sent a "two page" goodnight text and I gave her a simple one. I'm considering freezing out for a bit - wait until finals are over and then say that we can "blow up my kitchen" or something without sounding too pushy (obviously) and acting like the previous convo didn't happen.

    I think I'm gonna use her to practice, though. I might end up chasing her away, but hey, big risk = big reward, right?

    Thoughts?
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    Default Re: Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vicodin24 View Post
    Used one of my meet up texts last week on the girl that I want to have an LTR with:

    "Dear ____, you are cordially invited to (movies/bar/etc) at (time). (Dinner/Lunch) will be served. Sincerely, (name).

    PS - (inside joke)"

    She was busy that day, so I told her we should hang out before the semester ends. She immediately asked me what I was doing on Thursday. I said I was free and asked her what the plans were. She said to surprise her, so I did just that.

    Met up for sushi. I paid for her (not really AFC; I was brought up this way ). It went really well - she kept laughing, smiling, the conversation going, etc. Got to the point where she said she'd like to try my cooking, so I invited her over after finals.

    Walked back to the train, and she brought up "blowing up my kitchen" before I leave the country for a bit. Good, right?

    Anyway, I texted her a funny pic over the weekend at 3am and she turned out to be awake. She was at a concert and boasted about how her night was more exciting than mine. I said something like this:

    "How about I take you out one of these nights and you'll see that it's more exciting than a concert? "

    No reply. At all. I texted some nonsense to her late last night and she was awake (unexpected again). Called her out in a joking manner about not replying and she said that I "tried to compete with the concert." This is where I farked up:

    "Haha, I think I can compete with the concert =p
    Beside, you haven't tried my cooking yet! "

    Her:
    "I don't like arrogance "

    Crash and burn! I took it as a polite rejection. Recovered:

    "Arrogance? Ouchhhhhh. Thought you appreciated sarcasm? Lol" SUPER BETA

    She sent a "two page" goodnight text and I gave her a simple one. I'm considering freezing out for a bit - wait until finals are over and then say that we can "blow up my kitchen" or something without sounding too pushy (obviously) and acting like the previous convo didn't happen.

    I think I'm gonna use her to practice, though. I might end up chasing her away, but hey, big risk = big reward, right?

    Thoughts?
    Hey I'm a noob around here so I don't know what kind of insight I can give you but I will try.

    I think her I don't like arrogance bit with the smiley face was her being playful. The following line to me sounded a little defensive.

    What I would suggest you do is resume your current course with her while pretending that text exchange didn't happen. I don't have all the information but it seems like she is keeping it casual and joking around with you. You got this you just need to not worry so much about whether or not you are rejected because you will know it when it happens.

    "wait until finals are over and then say that we can "blow up my kitchen" or something without sounding too pushy (obviously) and acting like the previous convo didn't happen."

    Good call but I say you don't even have to wait.

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    Default Re: Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

    I'm still new myself but my advice would e pretend it never happened. Resume with your usual. In my opinion as she said it, she was negging you and being playful. Calm down and go back to your game.

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    Default Re: Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

    After her concert text; you should have responded with something like:

    "Well then little missy, I think you SHOULD take me out & show me what's more exciting than a concert. "

    or

    "Hmmm. Tocuhe'! Well played Miss Sassy-Pants!" I'm going to my corner now... hahaha!"

    Be playful & pay attention the the type of vibe that's happening.

    It's not as difficult as you think.



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    Default Re: Screwed up big time, but have a chance to recover...thoughts?

    At 3am, game is virtually non-existent...at least when it comes to texting. I'm not surprised I didn't think of any of those. I took it to heart because it was late and I was up for 43 hours (finals).

    I'm gonna wait until the week is over before texting her again. I always initiate, but it's days apart. I'm gonna open with "Hey, Miss Sassy Pants =p"

    Figure it'll be appropriate haha. Kudos!
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