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Thread: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

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    Red face I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    So..it's been a long time since I had a girlfriend. Lets just say too long. I've been feeling more miserable everyday. I'm 19 years old. Life is strange, and it's just been feeling dull and depressing lately. I won't complain though. I mean, haven't we all been there at some point? Some people have it worse than me. I wanna make something of myself; do something good for myself so I can just be happy and move on with life. I think a woman and some good sex could really change my life. I really feel the majority of my falls in life has been rooted in my interactions with women. The lack of intimacy everyday just eats at me everyday.

    I go to a community college weekly that's filled with hot women. They're everywhere. I've been making it my goal to talk to at least 10 women a day. If I can go over ten I do. I'm trying to increase my confidence with women by doing this and it's working very well. I'd recommend it to anyone. I'm not a bad looking guy either. I just need some practice and a little coaching.

    Problem is: every time I ask a girl out, she says yes, gives me her number, then disappears. I know a lot of guys have this problem. I'd like to identify what i'm doing wrong. I just need some help; some coaching to help me better myself.

    I'm currently texting with 2 different girls (i'll work on getting more numbers), both of which i've known for a really long time. I've actually been on dates with both of them when we were in middle school and i've somehow bumped into them recently. I got their numbers no problem, but the texting/calling game is stressing me the hell out.

    Let me narrow this down to ONE of these girls i'm texting. Shes my age, lives not too far from me, and I once dated her when we were younger. A year ago I ran into her again and got her number. We texted and chatted about how things had been, what we wanted to do for college, blah blah.. I totally messed up, and I realize now that I didn't present any attraction at all. It's been a habit of mine which i'm fed up with. I've just been too "friendly". Took me a while to figure it out and I feel more confident now that I realized that.

    So we texted, and texted, and texted for several months. She'd never answer calls, but always texts. This went on until I got fed up and just said what was on my mind. I basically told her (though text... I know..) that I really wanted to take her out but felt she was just blowing me off. She denied that and said "Oh but i've just been busy! We'll definitely chill I promise!" I didn't buy it, and stopped talking to her altogether for a year up until tonight. I was texting a friend of mine, and since my phone glitches frequently, I accidently sent her the text instead of my friend. It basically said "Yeah, cool. I'll ttyl then. Pce". She texted back and asked me what I was talking about. I said "My bad.. phone glitches sometimes. Meant to send that to someone else. " She replied saying it was no problem and then I felt compelled to message her again so I just asked her about how her "apocalypse" night was (the 12/21/12 bs). We ended up having a conversation about it and we joked around but after that I just don't know what to say.

    I wanna text her or call her again but I don't wanna seem too obvious. I mean if she's texting me back and joking with me then is she maybe not completely disinterested in me? If all else fails i'll just find more girls to hit on but wow.. if I could make it work with this girl i'd be the happiest loser on earth right now.

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    Just read paragraph 5 down to get to the point. I went a little overboard with the typing.

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    Lol.... you tripped and fell face first in the friends zone. You became her little text buddy that she could text whenever she got bored, and never had to worry about meeting you in person. Whenever I get a girl's number, I will always either text them immediately with something funny along the lines of "You were lucky enough to just get a VIP number, guard it with your life..or else! " or I will call her almost immediately afterwards. Why can I call her just after getting her number and get away with it? Because I don't give a fark, and when you live that reality, you not only exude confidence, but she senses it and you project your reality upon her. As I've said many times before, your game in-person and on the phone must be congruent with each other. Women can sense you being fake from a mile away. You also seem like you might be starting to develop some oneitis. Cut the string loose on this one, and continue talking to other women. In a few weeks if you want to re initiate contact, and set-up a meeting.
    Isolate. Escalate. Penetrate. Again and again.

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    You are too wrapped up in your own head! Stop overthinking everything.

    You are too dependent on this one girl, you are hooked on the need for her approval. You need to stop those thoughts that she is special or the one or whatever and you need to game her just like any other girl. If you are worried about being needy them you probably are. Remember she is a girl, there are plenty others if this goes wrong so who gives a shit! This attitude will stop you from declaring too much interest too early!

    You said you've been texting for ages you need to move towards an actual date. Texting for a long time kills off attraction. The rules here are simple just make sure you ask her out! If she says no or flakes you give it one more shot with a casual text a few days later but if that fails you need to give up!

    You are starting from a lower value position because she knows you are interested and she can have you any time she wants! This is your biggest problem! Your inner game is not strong enough! Trust me if you develop your self confidence you will start doing the right things naturally.


    Hope this helped

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    @PUA

    rebuild rapport and bond. come to her as if u just met her the last two days also....

    don't go XXX like u know her is my point.

    here, just refer to this and scroll to TEXT GAME section:
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...text-game.html

    let us kno how u do in the future.^^

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    Thank you all for the replies. You guys know your stuff. If this doesn't work out, then as i've said, I go to a college full of women. I could care less anymore, as awesome as it would be to win this one girl over.

    Today she hasn't responded. So i'll leave it at that. I think she has a boyfriend. Maybe one day i'll try again.

    I did however have a conversation with the other girl I mentioned. Same type of thing though.. she's made up excuses in the past and it's been a long time since I talked to her. Today I had a conversation over text which went something like this:

    I texted her saying "Hey! Guess what?" She replied asking "what?". I told her "guess". She guessed a couple random things and I told her she wasn't even close. Then she texted me a few more times saying "What is it?!". So maybe i've got her attention now? I told her "okay one last try" and she guessed again then I immediately called her. She didn't pick up, so I texted her saying "Hey I think your phone was ringing". I waited and hour.. no response or call back. I texted one last time saying "Well, guess you'll never know then." and haven't heard from her in the past couple hours. Maybe she's at work or something. In actuality there was no answer to that ridiculous guessing game. I just wanted to get her to pick up the phone so I could get her to meet with me, and since she clearly lost the guessing game, I was going to suggest she'd buy me a soda and we could hang out.

    I know.. it seems so cheesy.. but it's all I could think of at the moment.

    Any ideas?

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    the "question game" you're playing with her gets really anoying really fast. if a girl tried to make me guess like that i would probably get anoyed after the first two guesses. good job annoying the sh!t out of her.

    in the future don't make her guess more than once. and instead of saying "guess what" try something more along the lines of "you'll never guess what i did...." and then tell her after the first time she guesses wrong

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    There is no need to call on the phone! I wouldn't want to have a conversation with a girl I barely know on the phone.

    80% of your communication is non-verbal so take that away it can make things awkward. Texting gives you the advantage of thinking before you speak as well!

    Just text to sort the date or until you have built enough attraction.

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    the "question game" you're playing with her gets really anoying really fast. if a girl tried to make me guess like that i would probably get anoyed after the first two guesses. good job annoying the sh!t out of her.

    in the future don't make her guess more than once. and instead of saying "guess what" try something more along the lines of "you'll never guess what i did...." and then tell her after the first time she guesses wrong
    Yup, I messed up, but i'll learn from my mistakes. Thanks for the advice.

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    Default Re: I really like this girl. Need some phone advice. Help a brother out?

    good attitude man.... take ur licks - keep truckin.!


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