Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 8 of 8
Like Tree1Likes
  • 1 Post By BatMan

Thread: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

  1. #1
    IamError is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 54, Level: 1
    Level completed: 8%, Points required for next Level: 46
    Overall activity: 7.5%
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    3
    Points
    54
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    So I've been texting this girl for a few months now and have slept with a couple times. We live a couple hours apart and she's a student and a bunch of stuff happens to prevent us from getting together. Most recent her uncle committed suicide a couple weeks ago. We usually text everyday, just general chit and flirty, but the last week or so she dissapears in the middle of a convo and I don't hear from for a few days. When I start back up, we text back and forth like normal, then she disappears again. She's still all flirty with me. She was at a party a few days ago and texted me while she was there about what she was doing. Her on text

    Her: What bare you doing? (an obvious typo)
    Me: I'm baring it all
    Her (at 5am): I like that idea
    Me (when I wake up): It'd be an even better idea if you joined me.
    Her: Agreed

    The attraction still seems to be there. Then I don't here from her again over Christmas, just a wishing me of Merry Christmas. We text again a few days ago, I text her

    Me: We should get together next week.
    Her: I like it
    Me: What day works for you?

    And that's it. Haven't heard from her for a couple days. Don't know how to proceed. I was thinking "Well ok then, Friday it is". Any ideas? Is she a fllake? Thanks

  2. #2
    IamError is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 54, Level: 1
    Level completed: 8%, Points required for next Level: 46
    Overall activity: 7.5%
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    3
    Points
    54
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    Update. Texted her this

    Me: You know I like it when women play shy and here you are doing it.
    Her: Indeed
    Her: How are you?

    aAny ideas where to take it from here?

  3. #3
    DonJuanabee is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 115, Level: 2
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    22
    Points
    115
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    Ok so this is my first thread so apologies if I do not follow PUAforums etiquette... So I used to text this girl and everything was going great so I went on a date with her it went lovely even though we didn't kiss. She texted me the next day talking about how great I was and how good of a time she had! Then out of nowhere she goes cold and start one wording me and this went on for a couple days until I stopped texting her... Now all I ask is what do you impose I do to respark the flame?! I really like this girl even though I have plenty of other options.

    P.S. her friend says she likes it when guys play hard to get and I didn't really if this helps.

    *PLEASE REPLY SOON URGENT!*

  4. #4
    BatMan's Avatar
    BatMan is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 31,552, Level: 100
    Level completed: 0%, Points required for next Level: 0
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social25000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Awards:
    Most PopularCommunity Award
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    2,151
    Points
    31,552
    Level
    100
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 12 Times in 12 Posts
    Rep Power
    1389

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    Well I'm sure her uncle committing suicide has something to do with it. Have you talked with her about it or are you two strictly on booty call status? If you want something serious with her and you haven't consoled her then you need to. If you two are on booty call status then she will call you when she's up for fun and in the meantime you have to go out and meet other women. I usually like to be very selfish, but this is a death in the family and you have to be considerate and sensitive. If you feel this is beta then I hope you enjoy only one nighters lol. Because these are simple things that a man would do for his woman. Hope this helps and good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

  5. #5
    saguviper is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 288, Level: 5
    Level completed: 76%, Points required for next Level: 12
    Overall activity: 20.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    42
    Points
    288
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    18

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    I have read before that it sometimes would be best to tell her the time and day to meet instead of asking when she is free.

    Example:

    PUA: Hey, tomorrow I'm going to "random coffee bar" at 1pm, you should be there.

    This way, it gives a defined time and day as well as you are taking the lead, the alpha approach. If she says she's busy, then wait a few days and do the same thing.

    Her short responses and the way she seems to be avoiding directly answering your questions is weird. Maybe she likes being chased after.

    Good luck in your adventure

  6. #6
    beaker52 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 445, Level: 8
    Level completed: 90%, Points required for next Level: 5
    Overall activity: 50.0%
    Achievements:
    250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    64
    Points
    445
    Level
    8
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    26

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    Alpha.

    She's replying like that because she's waiting for you to disqualify yourself, which you somewhat did with "What day works for you?".

    She wants you to take control. Tell her she's going to meet you at x on y at z. Tell her that you're going to have a coffee/meal/whatever. Tell her your favorite coffee/dish/whatever and that it's really good. Tell her you'll have a good time and it'll be fun/romantic/whatever (you need to read whatever she'd be most receptive to).

    Do that all at once. Don't plan the time first. By letting her know the other stuff, you're letting her know what to expect, giving her something to "buy in" to, the idea of herself being there sits with her. She'll probably be "busy", even if she's not. If she doesn't suggest an alternative date, suggest ONE alternative. Just one, just to lure her into thinking she's got a little chase. But you're not a fqcking personal assistant to a stone, so if she still won't help, be blunt, "You're not helping me out here. When are you free to enjoy a [fun/romantic/whatever] [coffee/meal/whatever] with me?".

    She should be looking forward to it more than you. You need to be prepared to leave it, but don't be a d1ck about it. Just a lack of attachment to the idea of doing x with her will naturally shape your communications. Just as having an attachment to the idea will shape your communications, usually DLV.

  7. #7
    IamError is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 54, Level: 1
    Level completed: 8%, Points required for next Level: 46
    Overall activity: 7.5%
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    3
    Points
    54
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    Another update. She finally told me today that she started seeing someone, which I kinda expected all along. Which I understand since we haven't been able to see each other for a while. Anyway, I talked to her on the phone today and that's when she told me. I acted like it didn't bothere me and continued on with a conversation and told we should still get together next weekend. She both wanted to and didn't want to saying she was attracted to me and didn't think she or I could behave. I told her for sure i won't behave. She still wanted to get together, but at a neutral site about halfway between where we live. How do i get this back to her or my place? And more importantly, how do I get it so she doesn't flake? When i first brought up getting together she said ok, but no "body benefits", but as the conversation went on it grew more flirty and she was saying how she didn't think she'd have the self control. I'm totally expecting a flake, but any chances of salvaging this? She said she's only been official or whatever with the other guy for a few days and that I should take it as a good sign she hasn't totally ignored me. Thanks again for any advice.

  8. #8
    KnightTurner's Avatar
    KnightTurner is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 3,349, Level: 37
    Level completed: 99%, Points required for next Level: 1
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social7 days registered1000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    211
    Points
    3,349
    Level
    37
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    149

    Default Re: Texting all of a sudden went cold. Help Please

    DonJuan, please don't post your questions on someone else's thread. Always feel free to start a new thread.

    As for IamError, it seems like people have it covered but I'm not going to read through everyone so I'll just throw in my opinion.
    Go NC for a week then text her with the time, date, and place that you two are going to meet up. Asking her is very beta and makes her less likely to go through with it. You may also need to back off of the texting on your end a bit. If she takes a few days to reply, you take a day or two as well. But try and set up more face to face things and keep her interested.
    DOOOOONNNN'TTTT CAAAARREEEEE

    You are the prize. She needs to earn it.


Similar Threads

  1. Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating
    By fiftyts in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 09-23-2013, 03:53 PM
  2. A sudden change from girl who blocked me
    By Slowbomb in forum General Questions
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 12-20-2012, 12:42 AM
  3. Sudden Change in a Girl's Attitude - Gaming a Stripper HB9.5
    By rabican in forum General Questions
    Replies: 6
    Last Thread: 10-28-2012, 01:28 PM
  4. HELP! Hot Initial Attraction now lost all of a sudden!
    By Bullzeye in forum New Member Introductions
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 08-31-2012, 09:20 PM
  5. Texting Flake/Cold HB about bars this weekend
    By Moof in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 11-09-2010, 08:36 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com