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    Default URGENT new years Eve advice

    Hey guys..
    Happy new years eve to all!!
    I have been with my date for 3 dates and had sex with her.Cooked me dinner and keen to hang out more..
    I originally planned to go to a pool party with friends but my friends wife has bad preganancy pains so cannot go to the pool party..now im at a loose end.
    My date of late has invited me to a fancy dress party although its late to find a costume. Shes there for a few hours with her gay sister(18years) and then off into the city to watch the mid night fire works followed by clubbing until around 3am (with her sister) when she gets picked up from her mother..
    I havent met the mother yet but met the sister once when the 3 of us went to the movies yesterday..I seem to get on ok with her sister..
    Im fine with going to the fancy dress party and seeing the fireworks but carnt be arsed with the standing shoulder to shoulder wth piss heads in the city and queing blah blah..
    How would you guys deal with this situation without her seeing that shes the second choice or me looking boring if i dont hit the clubs with her?? :idea:
    Quick advice needed as its tonight and i need to call her to tell her what im doing.
    Thanks sooo much for your advice and happy new year to all!!!

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    I think you should simply weigh out your options.

    On one hand: You'll be with her for new years eve and get the kiss. Her sis likely likes you. You get a chance to show her another side to you.

    On the other hand: If it's not your scene then it will work against you. She isn't coming to hang out with you, but you hanging out with her. Big power shift if this is the beginning. (Not a big deal if you have rapport.)

    Last thing, depending on what kind of girl she is, she may just make out with the guy next to her at midnight if you aren't there. Who doesn't want a new years kiss? So you have to make a choice.

    P.S. If you can get her to cancel her plans and make new ones in your favor that would be great. Unlikely...but great. Good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    heres my quick advice, just don't go if you find it uncomfortable. if you asked her to do something she didn't want to do don't you think she would find an escuse not to go? she won't hold it against you. you don't have to do everything she wants. odds are she's going to the club to pick up a guy. you don't want to be stuck in that position now do you? best option is to flake on her

    girls flake on guys all the time, why should we be so scared to flake on them?

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    yeah, batmans idea of changing her plans is even better if you want her that badly, but imo she probably isn't worth a whole lot of effort on your part.

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    plus she seems pretty cheap if she did it with you after three days,
    Now this I just can't agree with. What is the rationale behind this?

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    wait i misread that, now that i reread it i see that its three dates not three days my bad. that sounds alot better, i correct what i said, she isn't too cheap sorry bout that.

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    Wait what's the problem? Sounds like a good time, but more importantly, sounds like a good opportunity. You have a golden opportunity to go and be the life of not 1, but 2 or even 3 parties. If you go to party #1, and show her you're the man (meeting people, being social, etc), you could have all these other girls wanting to meet you. And when you start getting the IOI's from these other girls and you brush them all off, how do you think your girl is going to react? Great chance to increase your stock in her eyes, but at the same time showing her you could drop her for any of those other girls in a heartbeat. You'll be getting some major attention at midnight, and probably have your girls attention 100% at the club, especially if you show up and own the place too.

    The danger comes at 3:00am with the whole mom thing. You could even play that cool, but that could also go very very bad. But I'd say its worth the risk. Go, show your girl you've got social skills, and reap the rewards later. Oh, and if you end up with phone numbers in your pocket at the end of the night, BONUS!

    Don't forget this may be some kind of test. These kinds of tests must always be taken on and 1-upped. She's testing you to see if a) you'll go along with what she wants and b) follow her along like a little puppy all new years eve. One Up her by going, having a blast, be the life of the party, and show her she's along for YOUR ride, which could end whenever YOU want it to. Test passed. You win.

    Or yeah, you could flake. That is an Alpha way out and it still passes her test. Don't do what you don't want to do. She will respect that, but also as posted above, it probably won't stop her from going out and meeting guys at the club without you. A real Alpha won't care about that though. If you are playing that game, do whatever you want on New Years because in the end, it won't affect you if she goes out. If you do stay home, she goes out, and you get pissed, then you failed that test.

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    Default Re: URGENT new years Eve advice

    Thanks all for the advice..Especially Faithful rider...I wish i saw your post before i decided not change my plans and still head out with my friends as originally planned..
    Like you said she may or may not have done something new years but hey carnt stop that..

    I like your advice faithfulrider of the fact she would think of a guy as good stock if you go along and be the Man (social,fun,etc) and take lead of the situation, i really would have swayed my decision to go along with her as now she may just think well hes not that interested to get to know me..
    What i didnt mention(which i asked in another post) that there is a bit of tention between us as she is thinking of a 3 some with her long term male/female friends and we are not exclusive, i said im not interested in someone keen to sleep around while we are dating wether or not we are exclusive or not!!
    We are still talking but i guess from what my friends have been saying the ball is in her court now and if im worth the effort she will reconsider her thoughts on 3 somes!!


    Just wondering at this stage wether to just Flake on her and wait if she gets back to me or just arrange a meet up this week and set the boundries whatever the outcome??


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