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    Nvniko is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help with a cute girl at work

    Ok so there's a cute hostess that was just hired last week at the restaurant I work at. And I've been getting a few ioi's from her and we've been joking around with each other, flirting, and etc. But when I found out she was 10 years younger then me I kind of got cold feet (she's 20 and I'm thirty). Now I'm not sure how to get her number and ask her out.

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    Default Re: Need help with a cute girl at work

    Is the age things a deal breaker?

    Yes? Just forget about it.

    No? It sounds like there's already attraction and you'll build rapport naturally through working together, you just need to extract what you want from her and plan/decide how you're going to do that. (at the expense of sounding clinical)

    As for how to get her number or ask her out, there are plenty of articles to search through on this forum alone.

    e.g. Kino's 95% Number Close in "How To Pick Up Women"
    There's an entire board for "How To Ask A Girl Out"

    Specific questions get better answers. Otherwise we kinda just have to point you at all the resources there already are, and you should be able to find them yourself!

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    Default Re: Need help with a cute girl at work

    Guess the question is, whats the big deal about age? Is it you that has a problem with her being younger than you, or do you think she is the one that has a problem with your age.

    If its you - why? If you have something against younger women and its a deal breaker as mentioned above, then there's your answer. I'm guessing that's not it though since you still are wondering about getting her number.

    If its because you're worried about her thinking you're too old, remember the following:

    - Women usually want to date men older than them.
    - Her IOI's seem to confirm that she's into you, regardless that you're older than her
    - When it comes down to it, women are more mature about these things, basically they just don't worry about such silly things.

    At my job, I am always working with girls much younger than myself (I'm 41, most of the girls I work with are in their 20's). A few weeks ago, I got a number from a girl who was 28, just for practice. Another girl I'm practicing skills on is 21. Age really is just a number, and luckily in most cases its a minor issue. In the very least, you should try, regardless that she's 10 years younger than you. Practice is Practice, and practicing in what seems uncomfortable situations makes your skills that much better.

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    Nvniko is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help with a cute girl at work

    ---UPDATE---

    So we ended up having an intimate conversation and made her laugh while also getting her to open up her private life to me. So she tells me about her boyfriend who she's mad at because he wants to spend New Years Eve with his friends at a party where there would be acting a fool and basically doing drugs. Oh and she's not invited and she doesn't want to go anyway because she's not into stuff like that. So I slowly subtly give her indictators of that her boyfriend is a mistake. And it seems like I really got into her head and got her thinking. After our break was over she asks me what time I get out of work and vice versa. So now I'm thinking I got the green light to ask her out and I ask her if she wants to chill after work and she's says no. She stays at home with her girlfriend on New Years Eve. Now I'm just confused and I don't know if I did something wrong or not, I could'ov swore I had all the right signals.

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    beaker52 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Need help with a cute girl at work

    I reckon you've read it OK but you missed a crucial aspect:

    She has a boyfriend. Dhe may have had some cursory thoughts about whether her boyfriend is right or not for her etc. but she clearly wasn't sold. You know, when you consider buying something and you get to that moment where you *are* gonnna buy without doubt? Like a switch?

    She probably entertained the idea maybe inviting you round to hang with her and her girlfriend. But your proposal probably put her barriers. Perhaps you went about it in the wrong way. There is a combination of events that can get a woman to do anything. This is out journey.

    In this instance, you've got to remember that if she has a boyfriend and she is indeed developing some sort of attraction to you in some way, she's going to naturally be unsure of what she's feeling and doing.

    Now, recovery. You need to capitalise on your good work. Forget the incident occurred. Her rejection meant sh1t to you, hopefully you held strong when it happened. Just keep gaming her, in an unobvious way. Maybe distance yourself a little, but it CANNOT be obvious, especially after she rejected you. You need to go back in strong, *show* her you're cool and your life couldn't be more perfect, that you're comfortable *with her*, touching her, talking to her. *Show* don't say. *Demonstrate*.

    Obviously don't go and grab her boobies, kino escalation. If you've established a level of touch with her, demonstrate it at that level, every time you see her and escalate where appropriate.

    Remember, you are a fricking boss. Sh1t, she missed out on hanging out with *you* on new years! Remember that.


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