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Thread: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

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    Post Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    So I went out with this HB9 and we really hit off or at least so I thought. I teased, used push-pull, and ran some kino (probably not as much as I should have). A formula that at least usually gets me a second date.

    Anyway, about a week after we met I'm texting her and ask her to hang out again. She says she's not sure because of schoolwork she has due so I sent her a text that made her laugh to make it an easier decision for her. Then she said I was funny and I followed by saying that I'll see her then. Then she texts me that she had a fun time with me and she thinks that I'm so adorable and funny, but she doesn't think that we are a good match. And that we can both find someone who can better fit our personalities. I told her that that's news to me and she said that I'm just not her type and she didn't feel like we connected.

    So I realize that it's a hopeless situation at this point (I don't think that she even wants to be friends for whatever reason), but could anyone translate all this womanese for me? I'm really confused and would like to get an idea of what I did wrong so that I can improve.
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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    1 thing that is really misunderstood in the community is external circumstances. You only have so much control over the situations but it could be anything. She could had found a shinier object, her grandma could had just died, her friends might know you and cursed you. You don't know all the circumstances so don't beat yourself up.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.

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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    I know I shouldn't beat myself up about it, but at the same time this has happened to me once before. You feel like you're connecting with them, but they don't feel like they're connecting with you. It sucks because I'm usually on the other side of this irony. The majority of first dates I go on usually end with me either not being attracted to them nor feeling connected to them or they show serious red flags. The few first dates that I have gone on where I actually liked the girl afterwards, this seems to happen. I use Pandora's Box mostly and I don't treat them any different across types e.g. I treat all Cinderellas (NJI) the same, etc. It's just very frustrating and confusing.
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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    Its kinda clear to me that you are disqualifying way to quickly.

    Step back. Breathe.

    What is your goal? Are u looking for an LTR? A fun date girl? Sex?

    Its easier to get what you want when you have a plan.

    Getting back to my initial response. You must look at each woman positively. If nothing else, have fun with them. If you start making reasons to disqualify them, u will get more stubborn... more closed up to just relaxing and being alpha.

    The point of all this is that when u get negative about your prospects, when u actually meet a great girl you will show it in your actions. Your body language will give it away or you will show alot of interest.

    Have standards... but focus on gaming women well and having fun. Then, you will be more chill with the hotties. They will be just another girl who wants u lol.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    You didn't escalate, or even try to. That is what you did wrong IMO.

    Chicks don't want wishy washy guys who expect things to fall into place. They want a man who takes charge, knows what he wants, goes for what he wants and even if he doesn't get it, he let her know that he is not wasting any time.

    These days, I always go for a k close at the very least on the first date. There are 3 possible results.

    If she's into you, you get a kiss and almost guarantee a day 2 at worst, a f-close at best and a much higher likelihood of her becoming your girlfriend.

    If she tells you you're moving too fast, she's probably into you but doesn't want to feel easy. Build more comfort, try again. You let her know that you mean business

    If she pushes you away, and starts being standoffish or leaves, congrats. You were never gonna get anywhere with her, good job on preventing yourself from wasting anymore time.

    So yeah, always see how far you can escalate and gauge her reactions. Escalating is a form of compliance testing, if you get heavy resistance then she's probably not that into you and you might as well just move on.

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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    Hilariously enough I went into this date with that exact mindset i.e. I was planning on going for the kiss by the end of the date no matter what because of learning from past failures and successes with this type of woman. However, a few minutes into the date I heard the four words that I never want to hear again, "I have a cold." Ugh! Stay home if you have a cold! So much for that. So I ended up just kissing her on the cheek at the end of the night because I didn't want to risk getting sick. I much rather get rejected than sick anyway.

    I hate to think that not kissing her was the kiss of death (no pun intended) because it was out of my control and it would just be a confirmation of how sh1tty my luck has been lately when it comes to dating.
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    Default Re: Had a fun first date, but then said we're not a good match.

    I use that line she said as a perfect reverse qualifier. When she says she doesn't think your a good match. Say in a playful way " yeah I only date good kissers "
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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