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Thread: Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

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    Default Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

    I met a girl at a party yesterday and after becoming friends on fb and we ended up talking for a while. At the start i said some stuff that could have easily repelled her but she tolerated it and i ended up running a version of the 'Cube in the Desert' routine used on Paris Hilton in 'the Game', on her. This worked well and she was, in her own words, 'intrigued' by me. We talked a bit longer and this is what happened: (for some reason she doesn't use full stops at all)
    Me: If i can do that (read your personality) over facebook, imagine what i can do in person... xx
    Her:Mmmmm thats true, I'm intrigued now, what else can you do lol? xx
    Me: Well i think my powers may allow me to make a penny disappear and reappear again. Apart from that, you won't find out until you see me again!! xx
    Her: Ahhh that trick, pretty amaxzng to be fair, well in that case i guess i'm going to have to wait until i see you, no idea when that would be though, any thoughts ? xx
    Me: Well I don't know when (host of the party we met at) will have a party again, and my bathroom stills smells of sick from New Years so i doubt i can have one anytime soon - we may have to think outside the party shaped box!! xx

    And then no reply. This was my first ever attempt at a pickup like this, and i was just wondering where i went wrong?
    Thank you, any advice is much appreciated.

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    Default Re: Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

    This is a long shot but I'm going to guess the point where you told her your bathroom smells like sick lol

    When she asked you if you had any thoughts of when you'll get to see her again she was basically telling you to ask her out. And that's exactly what you should of done. Wait a few days and if she still hasn't responded then re-open her and move towards getting a date as soon as possible

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    Default Re: Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

    Quote Originally Posted by Crisp View Post
    Me: If i can do that (read your personality) over facebook, imagine what i can do in person... xx
    This counts as direct game fyi, well done

    Her:Mmmmm thats true, I'm intrigued now, what else can you do lol? xx
    Nice! She just IOI'd

    Me: Well i think my powers may allow me to make a penny disappear and reappear again. Apart from that, you won't find out until you see me again!! xx
    Lol, nice building expectation, you could even talk up the penny trick as if you were transporting a gunship if you want to go more cocky funny with it

    Her: Ahhh that trick, pretty amaxzng to be fair, well in that case i guess i'm going to have to wait until i see you, no idea when that would be though, any thoughts ? xx
    Right here ^ "any thoughts" that's her inviting you to ask her out

    Me: Well I don't know when (host of the party we met at) will have a party again, and my bathroom stills smells of sick from New Years so i doubt i can have one anytime soon - we may have to think outside the party shaped box!! xx
    Here's where it goes sour:
    -"Well" or "So" at the beginning of a sentence is a beta move to soften a statement. Don't use it. Be alpha and let your statemements be as hard or soft as they are of their own accord.
    -When you say you'll hang out through the party host you've distanced yourself from her - after she asked you to ask her out - see?
    -Bathroom smells like sick = DLV. Not an attractive image for her
    -You say "we may have to hang out out side of parties" after she says "let's hang out - any thoughts" tells her (A) that you didn't pick up on her subtle chickly social cues and (2) you've basically just suggested that you two can't have your first hang out at a bar, club, someone else's party, or just to watch a movie and drink - because all of those are arguably within the "party box" and the best opportunities for an f-close

    Up til that last message it was a good exchange, just remember that when she give you an IOI you should give her a similar one back (this is pair bonding) rather than distancing from her
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    Smile Re: Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

    I can see now that i was trying to cover myself too much by trying to get her make the move and not displaying IOI, which is something that also caused me to fail my last kiss close opportunity. Thanks for the advice - any ideas about how i should re open her if she doesn't reply?

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    Default Re: Need to know where i blew my chances over fb?

    I'd re-open with a qulifyer. Say that you are really into some quality she has without attributing it to her - intelligence, wittiness, ability to bust b@lls, something her personality has earned. Then if she responds with an IOI give her one back, if she gives and IOD give her one back. (Have one of each ready)
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