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Thread: Post-holiday Mixed Signals

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    Default Post-holiday Mixed Signals

    Hi all,

    So I'm interested in this girl and feel like I have played it fairly well, but since returning from the holidays I have not gotten the same signs of interest as before. The story is: I went out with a large group of people a couple of weeks before Christmas, and the two of us were pretty flirtatious and touchy-feely. At one point I told her (didn't ask) that she should go out with me. She told me to ask her after we got back from holiday vacation. Normally I'd be weary of this, but it was followed by kino--she put her leg on mine at the bar, side touching, etc.

    Since returning though I feel like she's not expressing the same interest. We've only gone out (again in a group) once, and I probably didn't have the best energy as I had had a long day, but am also certain I didn't do anything needy. Was just enjoying myself. I spent some time talking to other girls/friends one of which seemed interested in me and was in a pretty good mood.

    Anyway, I felt like she didn't give me that many signs of interest, nor did I have time to talk/flirt with her much--she's hit on by other guys fairly frequently. Should I just approach her and tell her to do X activity with me (aka, "ask" her on a date) or wait until we go out and try and alpha male/kino her? In need of help.

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    Default Re: Post-holiday Mixed Signals

    Hey man, I think the main problem is the frame control. A girl can't tell you when to ask her out, you're not a fucking door to door salesman who will come next week. She has one shot, that's it. You're the prize not her. Your time, your terms.

    You probably didn't demonstrate too much value, and you let her control the frame. I think if you just out of the blue ask her out now it will be an easy shut down.

    Wait till the next time you go out and definitely DHV hard. Keep working other girls but involve her once in a while, this will make it impossible for her to ignore it. You will see how quickly she will be 'interested' again. Girls are competitive, they don't like losing. At that point you will have the frame control and KEEP IT.

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    Default Re: Post-holiday Mixed Signals

    Done and done. Hung out at a party, a little more kino. So I did get a date with this chick...for the most part. I ended up texting her a bit, and eventually said something along the lines of "I'm going to the farmers market Saturday, join me." To which she replied "I do like the farmers market."

    Now I'm just not sure how to follow up and to keep her interested. I didn't think a standard "We should head out at 10am" would do. (Note: she's also my neighbor but we each have 3 roommates so rarely see her in private.) Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Post-holiday Mixed Signals

    Just say, "Great - more info later!"

    The next day, text her in such a way that assumes she's readily available. Like Fuser said - "Your time, your terms."

    Something like this should do the trick:

    "Hey, punk! Farmer's market Saturday - meet ya at 10!"

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