Hi everyone, i'm new here so bear with this long post as I give some background info on my problem.
I started grad school about 4 months ago. During orientation I met this really cute girl and started flirting and talking with her. Less than two days later I invited her over to my place for dinner and she came. I was afraid to take things too fast so I would keep flirty touches to a minimum. When classes began we realized that we were in the same classes and sat next to each other in 4 out of the 5 classes. After that we became "study partners" and would go on "friend" dates every week. I even asked her out after 3 weeks and she originally said yes. But on the day of the "date" she texted me: "Why [are we going to] the fancy restaurant. It's not like its a date?" To which I repled: "No, its only two friends having dinner." I was hopeless and giving up, everyone told me I had been FZed very badly. On another of these "dates" I asked her what she would do if I asked her out, and she said that we were "just friends" and that she didn't want to ruin the friendship. I began just seeing her as a friend and we worked together on school work etc. She also met a guy from another state and hooked up with him on their first date. However, she has only seen him twice and complains to me that he never texts her anything romantic, only ordinary stuff.
In December, I invited her over to my place to celebrate the end of exams. We both got really drunk. I began playing with her hair, laying on her, putting my arm around her, and we ended up dancing. After dancing we fell on the floor (in my place) and I pecked her. She didn't say anything. Then I picked her up from the floor and took her to the couch where we cuddled and then messed around for like an hour. (Afraid to do anything else, because I didn't know if she was allowing me to do this because we were both drunk). After awhile I asked her to stay over and she did. We slept in the same bed but nothing happened. (I was super scared to try anything)
In the morning, everything was normal. I made her breakfast and we laid on the couch together. She asked me if I would marry her if we both didn't find anyone by 27, and I said no because that would me I would be a "back-up" to which she responded that she didn't see it like that. I then just shook my head. Then we began talking about the guy she likes and the conversation turned sexual. I asked her about her favorite sex positions, if she plays with herself etc. to which I got honest answers. As we were talking, I started kissing her neck and tried to go in for a kiss, which was when she asked me "what are you doing?" This got me scared again, and I just stopped and then took her home.
I didn't see her for 10 days during our break but we texted everyday. She constantly tells me she "loves me" and that she "misses me." At first I use to say the same things back but now I have tried not to respond with stuff like "i love you too etc."
Four days ago, she went out to drink with her female friends and invited me to come meet them there. At the bar she got hit on by an older man and I got jealous and texted her "have fun with him in bed" to which she just said "No! lol". When her friends told her to leave I told her that I would drive her home and to stay awhile with me so she agreed. However, my time was cut short by an idiot from my school that started hitting on her as well. He wouldn't get off her so I threatened to leave her at the bar and got pissed. I told the guy that he would have to take her home. She then came out with me and I basically told her that she could have stayed with him and slept with him if she wanted, that I didn't care.
When we got to her house, I did what I had not wanted to do: I told her that I wanted to end our friendship because I had strong romantic feelings for her. She cried and told me that she loved me even if I had romantic feelings for her and that she didn't want to lose me. Just when I was going to leave, my car's battery died and she invited me to stay over.
When we got in her bed, I grabbed her and kissed her normally to which she said "I can't even slap you because I love you so much." I then kissed her again and when she opened her mouth thrust my tongue in. She then called me "wild" and we cuddled until we fell asleep. In the morning when she wanted to get up I threw my hand in her shirt again and played with her nip for a few minutes. Then I got up and left the house. We later went to the mall together and had dinner. Everything has been pretty normal after that. Except that two days ago when I didn't respond to one of her text she asked me "if I was mad at her" to which I responded "why would I be?" Then yesterday she didn't text me all day and I didn't text her until 1030p. She told me she missed working with me and that we loved each other and thats why we miss each other so much.
Today I haven't heard from her. I don't know what to do. I would like to f- close with her but since she seems so "submissive" and doesn't really do anything when I am under her shirt or kissing her I don't know what that means. My friends tell me I am definitely not FZed if she allows me to do that stuff to her and then acts all normal like if nothing has happened. Mind you she still is talking to this other guy and puts statuses of him on twitter all the time. However, he is 4 hours away, so I have been ignoring him and just focusing on me getting her.
How do I proceed? Do I ask her to come to my apartment for dinner and then start flirting/touching and go in for a kiss and push it from there? Do I explicitly ask her to be more than friends or what is going on between us?
From what I've said do you think she likes me/is there any possibility of more than friends? (the i love you stuff seems to just be a friendly I love you)
Thank you all!