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Thread: Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

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    Default Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

    I've been talking and hanging out with this girl who is about 8 years younger than me. I had dealt some serious attraction out. She actually invited me out, was contacting me every day, and so on and so forth. We were talking on the phone quite often, and still do. I went through a busy streak where I couldn't answer her calls our texts on command, but I was hanging with another woman and she knew it. Of course this other woman and I were just friends (her car broke down I repaired it for her).

    Now I have noticed her replies tend to be one or two word replies, and she will say something else if I don't respond, but the conversations are predictable and boring, and there is almost no point to text every day if those are the conversations we are going to have. I can tell she still likes me a bit, but the attraction is dropping, but she still likes me for various reasons.

    I told her we should go out friday, she said "Mabye we will see " which kind of translates to a yes in my opinion.

    My plan of action is to simply tell her:

    "Look babe, we talk every day, and don't get me wrong, I love and look forward to talking to you, but it should be obvious to both of us this conversation is getting flat out boring and to be honest I'm not much of a text or phone call kind of guy, I just made an exception because you are always so busy, but we need to spend some more time together because you can only convey so much over text message."

    That or something similar. I won't know exactly what I'm going to say until I say it, just the main points I want to convey, but I would like some other opinions before I proceed. This is going to either make or break me.
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    Default Re: Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

    Why would you say that at all?

    If you want less text, then text less!

    Space out your replies and use the phone to focus on setting up a date

    Your response attempts to set up formal rules and guidelines for texts, that's horrible
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    Default Re: Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

    I quite agree, that's kind of why I posted on here, it was like this is what I want, but I would feel like I was putting pressure on her, which is never a good thing and a sure fire way to get myself friend zoned. I guess I should read my signature more often lol.
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    Default Re: Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

    Why not try to freeze her out when she says "Maybe we will see"? Just say, "Listen, I'm a busy guy and I have other people who want to be around me. If you can't say we'll hang out, then I'll find someone else to hang out with."

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    Default Re: Gaming a younger girl...avoiding the rut

    You can't do a freeze out over every little thing. I ended up working anyway, and her fiance came in the other day...lol. I friendzoned the girl yesterday anyway. I thought about it, and was planning on it, then got a text from a meddlesome girl I used to see about her being together with her fiance. Of course they "aren't together" but I know she is still seeing him, and truth is as I told her, its none of my business. Basically I went afc, and told her I really liked her and that there is no reason I should be so attached to her, and that this time it actually is my problem not hers.

    She got mad of course, and we spent two hours hanging out. I'm just going to take some time to get over this one, meet some new girls, and end up with a great new friend out of the deal. They were together for 6 years, and they will end up getting back together I'm sure. It was basically an, "I want you, but your life is way too complicated right now and I'm choosing not to become involved, there are plenty of other women out there," kind of thing.

    EDIT: I do think I created some feelings of jealousy though, because she was mad at the other girl as she put it "for being thrown under the bus". If she decides she wants me, she will come around and institute a no contact with her ex. Otherwise I'm not investing any more into her.
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