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Thread: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

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    Default Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    So there is a girl I know who is sweet as can be. She is beautiful and has hardly been with any guys and is some what of a prized possession to the guys who know her, maybe for her looks or exclusivity, or probably both... Regardless, like every other guy I think I am in love <3 Just kidding . But she does have that way about her that will make your heart melt by being around her because of her projected innocence, kind attitude, and amazing body. Needless to say, I WANT THIS GIRL!

    I don't see her too often but have been seeing her pretty regularly about once or twice every 1-2 months. We hung out the other night with a couple of friends and she sat next to me on the couch. Her body seemed to be more turned to me, and we had a lot of light kino while talking as a group. I noticed a couple of times that she genuinely laughed at some things I said that weren't really too funny and when no one else laughed. I also remember a time before that I was with her and unintentionally threw in a DHV spike in conversation about my ex girlfriend and got a reaction that showed I had tapped into her subconscious. I don't really know how to describe it but it was a moment where you could feel positive tension (LOVE this!).

    Now I sit here feeling like I'm in good standing and have prepared myself NOT to lose, but not necessarily to win. I feel like I've done well, but haven't really came close to winning her. Sort of like I'm stuck on a plateau or in a stalemate wondering if I've built some attraction or if I just think this because she is nice?

    I'm also looking for some expert tips on how to deal with a type of girl like this, and maybe some common mistakes to avoid to not be like every other guy because like I said she hasn't been with many guys and gets hit on like crazy.

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    Right now, it sounds like you have done the right things. The fact you went out on a limb with that DHV spike shows that you have guts, and that's a quality that a lot of women look for.

    However, there are things that can be improved on.

    Your mindset on this is one titanic problem. Right now, from your post it sounds like you are too attached to this girl. Not only that, your die-hard attitude to getting her may hurt you in the end if things fail.

    I learned another thing from Tyler Durden today, who specializes in improving your inner self to make you more attractive to game. He said that women find a man who is willing to take on shame than a man who tries to avoid it. To do something potentially embarrassing and shrug it off as if it was nothing is far more attractive than not being able to handle the slightest of failures.

    In terms of your future game, here is my advice:

    Continue to be playful. It looks like that right now you have caught her interest with how you are. Just continue to speak naturally to her in public, and tease her every now and again with a flirt or a neg.

    Change up the conversation mood. Add some out of the blue stuff into the conversation. Hit her with topics and questions that she does not have a generic answer for. If you need some good ideas for what to start out with, check out the forums here for openers and conversation starters.

    Make your text game spontaneous. Randomize your response time. One moment respond in two minutes, while the next you could respond in an hour. This shows that you do have a life and that you are not always at her beck and whim. It also adds some anxiety to her because she will be unsure of when you will respond.

    Most importantly, DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF. Considering how she laughed at you when no one else did, she likes you for you. If you change yourself for her, she will only see it as you trying to get at her. Continue to enjoy yourself and stand strong for who you are. She will find this far more attractive than anything else.

    I'm not sure how things are now with her, considering this is a month old, but I figured that an unanswered question is worse than an old one answered. Who knows, maybe someone else will stumble onto this thread and find some useful information in it. I know I did.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    You've already established a rapport - just be a big boy and ask her out.

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    Time out here , you made a DHV by bringing up your ex girlfriend into the convo ? HOW ?

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    Default Trophy Wife

    Quote Originally Posted by FlowTime View Post
    Time out here , you made a DHV by bringing up your ex girlfriend into the convo ? HOW ?
    I suppose that if the girl was very well known, beautiful, intelligent, or any combination of the above, it can show that women of extremely high value have dated him. Thus, this makes him worth a lot more than he did before.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    I suppose that if the girl was very well known, beautiful, intelligent, or any combination of the above, it can show that women of extremely high value have dated him. Thus, this makes him worth a lot more than he did before.
    I'm just assuming here but the risk this could've back fired on him was extremely high, during DHV that is.

    Props to anyone who can pull it off and remain unscratched

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    Some of Mystery's DHV's involve an ex girlfriend. I've never used one that involves an ex, but i suppose if it is worded properly that it could work.

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    Quote Originally Posted by FlowTime View Post
    Time out here , you made a DHV by bringing up your ex girlfriend into the convo ? HOW ?
    Well the thing is I wasn't exactly trying to throw a DHV. We were simply just talking and I believe she brought it up because she knew I was with this girl and it went something along the lines of this (I don't remember exact words but along the basic lines of this)

    Her: So what happened between you and (exgirlfriend)?
    Me: We had a lot of fun and all but it just seemed like she became a little too needy and always needed someone by her side, and I'm just more of my own person and like to do my own thing (confidently, not cocky)
    Her: I can see that

    The way she said "I can see that" was something much more than words. She immediately started playing with her hair and said it really slowly as if I had just revealed information that she was looking for. We were just casually talking and after that moment her focus was very apparent and I could tell she zoned in.

    I never would bring up my exgirlfriend but if someone asks I will tell them as much as I feel I need to. and another little tip we should all know if you don't, is to never talk bad about another women. To be honest when she asked what happened I wanted to say "She was a crazy farking bitch who never left me alone" but I realized if you are cool and content, it makes you look like you were the one with standards and are in control of your own environment.... VERY STRONG POINT HERE

    a question for you guys: Do you think her asking about my exgirlfriend would be an IOI?

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    Quote Originally Posted by feetsoup View Post
    You've already established a rapport - just be a big boy and ask her out.
    I know I have but like I said I don't see her that often and I feel like I have to start over again each time I see her. I feel like I have gain her interest but not enough to pursue it.

    What I'm really looking for is some tips on how I should progress to do this? Were always around friends when were together, so do you guys think I should try to isolate her or something?

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    Default Re: Nice girl: Is she into me, or just nice?

    *a question for you guys: Do you think her asking about my exgirlfriend would be an IOI?*


    change this thinking mentality!!!!! Who cares what an IOI even is!!!, It dosnt matter if they even exist. Ask her to come out for a drink. Period.


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