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    Default Becoming Alpha? I am like half the time.

    Hey guys, this isn't directly related to pick up but being an Alpha Male is one of the most talked about things.

    I've been reading a lot of books like "How to become an Alpha Male" and "Way of the Superior Man" and I really love the lifestyle of being alpha.

    Some days, I'm just really happy with life, my social skills are on par, I'm not affected by little things.
    I had a day like that last night, I was texting my girl after school and I told her I'd catch her later. I had a great time, I'm getting into a lot of cool talent-like stuff (I'm aspiring to be the renaissance type of man), I play marimba and do parkour so I was doing that. I texted her a little later, said something sweet, she just said "Mmkay" but I was still feeling great so I didn't care. Went to the basketball game, spent minimal time with her, still felt great. Got home, chatted up my 8/10 neighbor and her 7/10 friend. Still felt great.

    It went on for like another hour, then I went into super self reflective mode thinking about my girl. I want to be able to avoid that, I don't want to reflect on myself, I just want to be me and be the way I was all the time if that's possible.

    I start thinking too much, I never really get upset, but it hinders the rest of my personality. I was with friends still, so it was noticeable that I wasn't being my normal alpha self.

    So my question is:

    How can I help myself be Alpha all the time? Most the time I think I'm pretty hot shit, but in a funny way and girls love that. But sometimes I completely forget how to socialize and how to make good flirty conversation.

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Becoming Alpha? I am like half the time.

    Alpha doesn't necessarily mean happy. You can be angry and still be alpha. If you are asking how to be happy, outgoing, and energetic all the time then that is a tall order. We all have our down or off days. It's normal and it's fine.

    As for reflecting, I can say the only growth I've ever done is when I took the time to reflect on my mistakes or successes. Even if I use some strange "pickup line" that gets a few good responses I will automatically reflect in that moment with "Hey. I guess this actually works."

    But I do believe there is a thin line between reflecting....and dwelling. I've seen beginners do nothing BUT reflect and their inner game is full of unnecessary complexity. And you don't want that. Just know that reflecting is a part of growing and learning from your experiences and if you feel you are starting to ADD to it and it becomes dwelling then you can just switch your focus from internal to external.

    Now about your gf. I'm going to assume that you are thinking about her so much because you felt there was something going on that was bothering her. Correct me if I'm wrong.

    Maybe it was her response. Maybe it was something she said or did when you spent time together. You know how you handle that? Just ASK her. I know you may think that it's beta to ask your gf what's wrong. It's NOT!! Only if you keep nagging her on and on.

    If you want to increase your chances of being social or outgoing all the time then whenever you are about to go out come up with a routine. Listen to "pump me up" music and literally look in the mirror and laugh at yourself. It's not fool proof, but it should help.
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    Default Re: Becoming Alpha? I am like half the time.

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Alpha doesn't necessarily mean happy. You can be angry and still be alpha. If you are asking how to be happy, outgoing, and energetic all the time then that is a tall order. We all have our down or off days. It's normal and it's fine.

    As for reflecting, I can say the only growth I've ever done is when I took the time to reflect on my mistakes or successes. Even if I use some strange "pickup line" that gets a few good responses I will automatically reflect in that moment with "Hey. I guess this actually works."

    But I do believe there is a thin line between reflecting....and dwelling. I've seen beginners do nothing BUT reflect and their inner game is full of unnecessary complexity. And you don't want that. Just know that reflecting is a part of growing and learning from your experiences and if you feel you are starting to ADD to it and it becomes dwelling then you can just switch your focus from internal to external.

    Now about your gf. I'm going to assume that you are thinking about her so much because you felt there was something going on that was bothering her. Correct me if I'm wrong.

    Maybe it was her response. Maybe it was something she said or did when you spent time together. You know how you handle that? Just ASK her. I know you may think that it's beta to ask your gf what's wrong. It's NOT!! Only if you keep nagging her on and on.

    If you want to increase your chances of being social or outgoing all the time then whenever you are about to go out come up with a routine. Listen to "pump me up" music and literally look in the mirror and laugh at yourself. It's not fool proof, but it should help.
    To be honest with you, I didn't think something was wrong. Nothing is. I just tend to think about her and other stuff more than I need to, you know? It's kinda hard to explain, I think I'm just hard on myself though. I think I'm dwelling on myself more than anything, my ability to remain being alpha kind of. I don't usually get upset about things like what she said or whatever, I just feel as if I could have done better, not that she doesn't care. I'm really confident, but I think my problem is dwelling

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    Default Re: Becoming Alpha? I am like half the time.

    I know what it's like to dwell. Like I said it's a very fine line of just reflecting or dwelling. This is something that you'll pick up in time.

    I will also add that it's better to be flexible with your emotions rather than try to be cool all the time. It is possible to be upset and not be looked at as weak. As long as it's not a constant thing it will simply have a more powerful effect. People around you will go "Whoah. He's never like this. It must be serious."

    There's actual studies that show that people who show anger are viewed as more dominant than someone who is happy. Mind you, anger and rage are two different levels of the same thing. Check out the Wikipedia page on anger. Specifically under "Psychology and Sociology" sub-texted under "As a Strategy." The findings are quite interesting when put in correlation with pickup and being alpha. In summary...if you learn how to express anger properly, without being reactive, you WILL be perceived as alpha.
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    Default Re: Becoming Alpha? I am like half the time.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sirdinkleburg View Post
    Hey guys, this isn't directly related to pick up but being an Alpha Male is one of the most talked about things.

    I've been reading a lot of books like "How to become an Alpha Male" and "Way of the Superior Man" and I really love the lifestyle of being alpha.

    Some days, I'm just really happy with life, my social skills are on par, I'm not affected by little things.
    I had a day like that last night, I was texting my girl after school and I told her I'd catch her later. I had a great time, I'm getting into a lot of cool talent-like stuff (I'm aspiring to be the renaissance type of man), I play marimba and do parkour so I was doing that. I texted her a little later, said something sweet, she just said "Mmkay" but I was still feeling great so I didn't care. Went to the basketball game, spent minimal time with her, still felt great. Got home, chatted up my 8/10 neighbor and her 7/10 friend. Still felt great.

    It went on for like another hour, then I went into super self reflective mode thinking about my girl. I want to be able to avoid that, I don't want to reflect on myself, I just want to be me and be the way I was all the time if that's possible.

    I start thinking too much, I never really get upset, but it hinders the rest of my personality. I was with friends still, so it was noticeable that I wasn't being my normal alpha self.

    So my question is:

    How can I help myself be Alpha all the time? Most the time I think I'm pretty hot sh1t, but in a funny way and girls love that. But sometimes I completely forget how to socialize and how to make good flirty conversation.

    Thanks
    That happens to me too that I am not always alpha. Sometimes a beta behaviour still kicks in, but then I think afterwards about it and know what to correct. So now I am correcting my behaviour on the go and the beta behaviour is getting less and less.
    Think through the situations where your behaviour was beta and what you would have done differently. Just do not whine about the past, but learn from mistakes to avoid them in the future.

    However I would say that there is a distinction between being alpha and sarging. Alpha + sarging is the way to go, but at times I am just alpha without the sarging, as for sarging I need to be in the mood for it.

    You could look at NLP to program yourself to get you in the state you currently want to be. But to do this you really need to study quite a bit about NLP.
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