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Thread: Should I stop approaching girls

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    Unhappy Should I stop approaching girls

    I have been approaching girls for almost a year now with no results. It starts to be really frustrating because I go out 4 nights a week and talk to girls and I haven't take a girl home yet. I N-close few but none of them text me back. I began to feel jealous from my friends when they go on a dates or puled girls from the bar and feel bad. Now I don't know If I should stop trying to have a girlfriend ,because If don't worry about it I will get one or keep doing what am doing. Can anyone advise me because am so lost and its really sucks .

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    Take a break and work on yourself. Exercise, further your personal pursuits... then go back with an increased feeling of self-worth and confidence.

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    you are measuring success the wrong way. getting a girlfriend should not measure success. instead, learn something new from every set. a successful approach should be defined as any learning experience. if you've learned you've succeeded.

    take a moment to reflect on how far you've come. how well you now do. you may realize that you have learned alot since you first started. especialy since you are sarging 4 times a week. thats alot of committment. i almost envy your level of committment to pua, i still have to almost force myself to go out clubin more than once a week. give yourself a pat on the back for effort, i would kill to have a wing with your level of commitment.

    also you need to figure out what your strengths and weeknesses are, maybe there is something you are overlooking? or maybe you are just being too critical of yourself?

    i have a suggestion, why don't you get an audio recorder that fits in your pocket, capture every set on it and then when you get home you can listen to what you and your targets said and see what went wrong and what went right.

    pua can be frustrating, especialy when you aren't getting the results you are wanting. but if you give up, you will never succeed. next time you are out in the clubs, try to just let go and have fun (instead of just being a social robot) odds are you need to work on spontanious flirting and the only way to be spontainious is to be lost in the moment not caring about "results", live in the present have a good time and flirt with any girls that catch your eye.
    good luck! never give up!
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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    Thank you that's really good idea to record the approach but you know the problem its become an obsession for me and know am feeling bad that I see my friends pull girls from the bar and I cannot do that.

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    if its become an obsession you've been doing it way too much. you are too attached to the outcome to succeed. you need to be able to relax and have fun rather than seeking a gf. also if you are looking to get a girl friend, a bar is not the ideal place to meet someone who is good gf material i recomend daygame. just flirt and be playful with everyone you meet don't worry about what anyone thinks and have fun with it. when you stop caring and start being fun is when you will do better

    btw, i forgot to mention that it takes around 18 months of constant practice to start to get consistant results (pulling at maybe 1/4 of the girls you talk to) it really all boils down to social experience and inner confidance, once you have those you will be good. also you have to stop relying on canned material (i don't know if you still use it or not but it hurts your game)

    also, if you have all these friends who "pull girls" why don't you try to mirror them? try seeing what they do and then copy them after all that is probably how they learned from someone else

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    You say that you have been approaching girls for a year without any results. Then say you've gotten a few numbers. Meteora is right. You are measuring success way wrong.

    Going out and ramming your head into the wall won't teach you anything other than you shouldn't be doing that. Try out different things. Find out what works for YOU. It would be easier if you had a coach to point out your sticking points. But you still don't need one. (I have never had a coach. Just a friend who shared some books with me and I surpassed him.) You have to be willing to experiment and come OUT of your comfort zone. Where ever it may be.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    meteora could you explain what do you mean by canned material? thanks

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    Default Re: Should I stop approaching girls

    using canned material is using pre-planned lines/ stories/dhv routines. (i don't recomend it, unless you are a beginner)
    spontanious flirting will beat canned material any day.

    usually people use canned material like training wheels for there flirting, it helps at first, but once you get so good using it will actually hurt your game.

    if you've never used canned routines (since you don't know what they are you may not have ever used them) then maybe now would be a good time to come up with some for "fallback material" for when you can't think of anything to talk about.

    i only fallback to canned material on really bad days when my mind is too preocupied to come up with anything flirty :/


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