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    Default Girl feels weird about relationships

    Hey guys,

    So this girl I've been seeing really likes me and we have a date tonight and my place to watch a movie. She texts me this morning and says "Honestly I feel kinda weird about tonight" referring to her and I possibly being in a relationship. I don't think she's emotionally mature but I'd be willing to put up with that because she's caring, intelligent, funny, and good looking.

    But I'd like this date to go well and possibly go exclusive. She thinks relationships are weird and she doesn't really feel comfortable with them even though we already go on dates, hold hands in public, talk to each other a lot, etc.

    So I'm looking for some advice on this, I'm not emotionally dependent on the outcome, but I would prefer if something came out of it.

    Anything I can say/do to help her feel better about the idea of being in a relationship? I know she's not seeing anyone else

    Thanks guys

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    Default Re: Girl feels weird about relationships

    "Honestly I feel kinda weird about tonight"
    i think this is probably because she thinks you are going to try and seduce her (not because she fears having a relationship) go the extra mile by building more comfort and not seducing her on this "movie date" don't worry about her declaring herself as your girlfriend for now, just build comfort and keep spending time with her. don't preasure her into "being your girl" instead stay calm and patient. if she likes you she will put in some effort towards being with you and will probably ask you about exclusivity at some point in the future

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    Default Re: Girl feels weird about relationships

    After the date we talked (We're close friends outside of our "relationship") about it and we've both decided to lay off the dates for a while and build more comfort with each other before trying anything else. It might be kinda beta but I really care about this girl, but I don't have her on a pedestal, I think it's fine to care a lot as long as I'm not obsessing over it.

    Anyways, any tips for comfort building?

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    Default Re: Girl feels weird about relationships

    Be patient & be genuine.
    It's totally OK to have a touch of "One-itis" if this is the girl you think is "The One".

    There IS a difference between being Beta & truly caring about her & letting her know.

    Just don't be clingy, needy or suffocating. That will backfire quicker than anything.

    Express a fun, positive, confident vibe & you should be golden.


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    Default Re: Girl feels weird about relationships

    Awesome, thanks guys. It's making me feel better about this, but I'm probably going to start seeing other girls as well so I don't get stuck up on this.

    But, I'm losing my touch for conversation. A month ago I could hold great conversation, have fun, etc. But now, I'm always struggling to find things to say, to anyone really, not just this girl. It's weird, I can talk to someone I've never met before easier than someone I know, I think it's because I put an unrealistic expectation on myself being boring. I just don't know what to talk about with good friends anymore. I don't feel bad for the girl thinking I'm boring, I feel more of a personal failure than anything else.

    Any tips for me trying to become a better and more fun talker again?


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