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    Question Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    Howdy playa's,

    I'm sort of confused between negs and teasing, aren't they the same thing? Which is better to use?

    Also, if you guys think these aren't good techniques, what could i use instead?

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    Long story short, negs are used to make her feel self concious about certain traits. This feeling of insecurity lowers her value. Negs are mainly used on high status women. Teasing is playful banter used for flirting.

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    Default Re: Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    ^ Big Shawn said it well!! ^

    Too many guys don't know how to properly use negs & misunderstand their purpose, which oftentimes ends up with less than desirable results.

    I pretty much always recommend the playful, teasing / bantering over negs. It's more light hearted & fun.

    Something like: "Oh come on, you don't know how to do that! Lemme help you so you don't screw it up!!" *with a cheeky smile & a wink & an elbow nudge.

    Things like that are "safer" when you're starting out.


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    Default Re: Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    I always thought i was negging girls but after learning more i figured out that what i do is more like teasing.

    A neg is a strong criticism that usually is used to bring down a woman who is acting bigger than you, being rude or not respecting your time (ex a constant flaker).

    Its not an emotional outburst but rather a strongly implied call out in the form of a joke... kinda what women do to test us.

    Ex. (Assume this is the 3rd flake) 'I can't go out with u today PUA. I have to get my hair done.' "Thank goodness! The mess you been wearing is starting to look scary!"

    You are challenging her flakes by using an unrelated topic (her hair):but the effect should be the same. You are showing that your not afraid to make fun of her. You are keeping your frame as one who doesnt mind offending a non compliant HB. You could have teased her also about the flake but there comes a point where that no longer works.

    My example was a quick one, so if its off please lmk.
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    Default Re: Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    I have a female friend who can be an overconfident know-it-all. If she starts getting ahead of herself on a topic she doesn't really understand or acts out of line, negs are perfect for getting her back down to Earth. This can be used on anyone, male or female, for the purpose of getting them to realize when they're crossing acceptable boundaries.

    If I use a neg or tease someone, I always make it clear in a subtle way that I'm not doing it to be malicious. Generally when I tease it's to show someone that I'm comfortable with, disagree that they have, or even like a perceived flaw of theirs - a sort of weird reverse psychology, compliments or reassurances that seem like playful insults at first. It has the double benefit of building comfort and showing that you aren't afraid to push the envelope.

    I'm just starting out as far as pickup goes, so maybe I'm naive, but I don't like the concept of using negs to bring someone down when they haven't done anything to merit it. The Urban Dictionary definition for "negging" shows one woman's opinion on the subject and I am inclined to agree with it. Any vets care to comment?

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    Default Re: Negs and Teasing - same thing?

    Those are just theories. When I am speaking with a girl, I do not need to know, are that what i am saying negs or teasing. I just need to know, that I need to say something, what makes woman understand that I do not understand her sexuality, I do not need her and I will not cling her.

    For example:

    Woman has said, that near her house there is dogs whom she hates.
    ...
    I ask: "What hobbies do you have?"
    And she says, that she goes out for watching the nature and things like that.
    I say: "Yeah. And watching the dogs, you really love."

    Is it a neg? It tells, that she is not overrespected. Is it teasing? It is funny, because it is slight-bullying. Is it cocky comedy? It is maybe that as well. Or am I just cheating that I am going away, because I say something unrespectful.

    Just do not worry. Keep it simple.


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