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    Thumbs up Sex too soon with an old flame

    Hi there! New to the forums but really need some advice on a situation which occured quite recently.

    Got in touch with an ex girlfriend recently, who I haven't spoken to in about ten years. Really hit it off over the phone and decided to meet up for drinks.

    When we did, it was great and efffortless to keep the fun and converstation flowing. As I had travelled about 100 miles (the distance between us) I had booked a hotel local to the bars we were at. One thing led to another and after many drinks (both of us) we ended up back at my hotel, where we hooked up.

    In the morning, her "shield" went up - not disappointment, but possibly awkwardness? She left and caught the train back home and I did the same later. To make sure we were cool, I text her messages through the day asking how her head was and the response was positive with a few smiles and kisses. We kept in touch over Xmas and have continued to do so this year also (via text). However, feel as though this is slipping into Friend territory and need to rectify this.

    Have read How to text girls for pointers but would really appreciate some advice. Aware that geography is not my friend but feel this girl is worth the effort long term. Trying to attract after "sealing the deal" - is this possible? Let me know what you guys think.

    Appreciate all comments and advice.

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    Default Re: Sex too soon with an old flame

    what were her responses to your texts / did she answer all of them? playful / banter back and forth?

    if they were bad it was probably a ONS or buyers remorse, i'm not an expert on the topics but this is what it sounds like

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    Default Re: Sex too soon with an old flame

    Thanks hyp - really appreciate the response (1st post!).

    She always answers all of the texts quite playfully with smiles and kisses. Have exchanged photos when we went out at Xmas (separately) and I sent her an album over iTunes which she has initiated conversation about and loves - as recently as last week! We have a history (went out for three years) and there seems to be interest but last couple of messages are more monotonous (losing interest?). Not chasing this like an AFC but if there is something I should change/do in my actions I would like to know. She has just started a full time job so we text at night which suits me anyway - she may just be dealing with this but I don't know IMHO. I know her well enough to know we wouldn't still be texting if she had regret or no future intentions - just not sure how to go from here.

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    Default Re: Sex too soon with an old flame

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-get-you...r-ex-back.html

    Cody and all the other guys compiled their guides, if you can't handle what they say then don't bother trying to get her, i know the situation is a bit different, yours maps more into BR, how to get ur ex back, and game in general, it'll take a bit to learn but if you want, give it a whirl

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    Thumbs up Re: Sex too soon with an old flame

    Cody doesn't pull his punches - just began to read this! Thanks for your help I will read the post thoroughly.

    If it isn't right to continue this then fine with that. I'm here to learn so this doesn't happen again. Thanks again, sincerely.


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