Re: How can I break my oneitis to focus on self improvement?
If you are not in the friend zone then what are you in? I haven't read your previous posts with this girl so forgive me. But I will say that if there hasn't been any escalation between you two then you may be something called an orbiter. (A guy who is waiting around for her to decide she wants to be with him.) Which is what a woman's friend zone consists of my friend...orbiters.
We all have our down times where our confidence is thrown and our self esteem plummets. That's the beauty of human behavior. Dynamic, never static. So you have to learn to roll with the punches and realize that happiness could not exist without sadness. So confidence only exists because there is doubt.
I recommend you literally write down what you want from a woman and from yourself. Separate lists. And stick to them. It's only when I did this that I found such high-caliber women I'd never thought I'd date. Which ultimately brought me to my current LTR to which I have a strong belief we will last a long time.
I had down times where I did not want to go out with friends or hit on women. These are phases. You are reaching a new level of understanding and you will come out of it with a drive and ambition you thought you'd lost. It just means you are growing in your game, which is a good thing of course.
As for the girl you want, keep practicing and don't limit yourself to one book or guru. Learn as much as you can and try new things to find out what works for you. Because we all may be aspiring pickup artists or experts, but we all have our different flavor of game.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."