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Thread: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

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    Default One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    I've done a lot of reading lately. I'm benefiting from what I'm reading a learning I think because people tell me I seem more happy and content. I also think I'm getting more confidant.

    However, there is one thing I still can't get a grasp on, and that embracing my sexual self.

    Meaning I'm afraid to even touch a woman it seems, making kino very hard. It's like, I'm conflicted accepting the inner sexually strong dominate alpha make inside me.

    This could be due to something in my upbringing or always wanting to be the "good boy"

    Well, I don't want to be the good boy, I want to be the alpha male man that is sexual.

    Any tips on changing this mindset? I did read how to become a alpha male by John Alexander, but I still need help accepting my inner dude and dominate man it seems. Note I say dominant, not domineering.

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    Go out in the field and practice. Force yourself to start with even the most basic kino. Reward girls with high fives or just slight touches on her arms when your talking to her. Then as you become more comfortable try different things. You're never gonna get out of your head by reading more and more material. You just have to practice and actually meet women to put the stuff you are reading to use. There isn't a magic pill. What you get out of pick up is determined by how much actual practice you put in.

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    Quote Originally Posted by Express27 View Post
    Go out in the field and practice. Force yourself to start with even the most basic kino. Reward girls with high fives or just slight touches on her arms when your talking to her. Then as you become more comfortable try different things. You're never gonna get out of your head by reading more and more material. You just have to practice and actually meet women to put the stuff you are reading to use. There isn't a magic pill. What you get out of pick up is determined by how much actual practice you put in.

    Exactly. Stop the mental masturbation and get out there! Start slow with the high fives and whatnot. Move on from there. Don't be afraid to get comfortable with women! It might be intimidating at first, but don't give up. Learn to get out of your comfort zone a bit. Couple that with what you've learned and your confidence boost and you'll be amazed.
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    Quote Originally Posted by Vicodin24 View Post
    Exactly. Stop the mental masturbation and get out there! Start slow with the high fives and whatnot. Move on from there. Don't be afraid to get comfortable with women! It might be intimidating at first, but don't give up. Learn to get out of your comfort zone a bit. Couple that with what you've learned and your confidence boost and you'll be amazed.
    Yeah. I'm kinda in that mental master nation mode. Mainly cause I do t have inner confidence built up fully to approach a lot.

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    Take things one step at a time, man. You have the knowledge - just put it to use. Try to be out with a group of friends instead of going solo. It'll get you into a conversational mindset and you'll advance from there. No reason not to be confident - failed approaches are statistically inevitable. Just keep pushing!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    Quote Originally Posted by Vicodin24 View Post
    Take things one step at a time, man. You have the knowledge - just put it to use. Try to be out with a group of friends instead of going solo. It'll get you into a conversational mindset and you'll advance from there. No reason not to be confident - failed approaches are statistically inevitable. Just keep pushing!
    Well, I keep reading stuff. I'm just hoping its going into my subconscious, ha ha

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    Default Re: One thing I'm still struggling to sort out.

    I put a post up on kino
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-pick-up...html#post63332

    What these guys tell you is absolutely right

    But I'll add, game is not just in the field. You need to be ok with your sexual self. Start touching everyone naturally. High fives and hugs are great, a jab on the shoulder too. Start with people you know, touch everyone, guys too, just on the shoulder as you walk through a crowded bar

    The more touch you use, the more natural it becomes
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval




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