Re: DHV + Non-neediness + Frame-control yadda yadda
I understand and feel the same way about negs. But teasing is good intentioned and playful. But everyone has different views on what is disrespectful and what is not.
Whenever you DHV you want to Demonstrate Higher Value. Not Discuss Higher Value. That's what the "D" is for. If you tell a woman "Hey I'm not a stalker or a pervert. And I would never watch you sleep," this may come off odd to her. She may have not even considered these things and now you have brought them to the surface. So telling a woman you never disrespect women will pop into her head "Why would he say that. HAS he disrespected women before?" This is why it's better to demonstrate it in your behavior vs just trying to sell her the idea verbally. Allow her to discover these things herself through observing you. It will be perceived as more genuine and not as if you are only playing a role. You are better off stating, "Yea I'm an asshole and don't give a fuck," then turn around and pull her chair out, hold the door for her, etc. When she says, "I thought you said you were an asshole," just say, "I am," with a grin on your face.
This sounds like it belongs in the attraction phase. When you are attempting to flip those switches to get her drawn to you. Just be careful about trying to qualify yourself to her by talking about your good traits. She should be telling you why she would be a good fit for you. Again, let her discover these traits on her own as you demonstrate them to her, without telling her, and the affect will be much more powerful.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."