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    diehard87 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Awful Date Recovery? Phoned me after to talk about it ..

    I went on a date with a girl, POF date. Sorry if this post gets long..its all steps..I believe this is recoverable...she says she likes me but..

    I'm new to any PUA, not done any, reading and learning.

    first hours went fantastic, connection, smiles, touching me.

    Mistake 1;
    We went to a second place and I hadn't eaten all day, worked out and the drink hit me a bit, I tried to kiss her in totally the wrong place! She was not that phased tho... smiled and went and got us more drinks.

    Mistake 2;
    Then she kept looking at my lips etc, and started to tell me a very very deep story, about family..the mood was so low after I made a stupid joke about it to bring the mood up...why?! and altho it was hilarious..iT REALLLY UPSET HER...she said she almost walked away but stayed.. and wanted to talk about what happened and why?

    mistake 3..
    some drunk came over and trying alpha..I wasnt happy anyway and nearly walked myself as I felt I messed it up..I was a bit of a dick to him as he started calling me names..I turned to him and engaged him with convo but shot him down which she thought was not nice and made me look like a dick...and she stuck up for him..oops..but she said she didnt care as she could see why I shot him down in convo .


    ...I walk home..o well..that's over,....move on..

    then I get a text

    "Hiya,in the interest of keeping to my honesty policy,i'd say i thought u were a good guy,and we had lots in common,but then felt a bit awkward with some things that were said etc!not sure what to do really.."

    then I get a call straight after to talk through what happened...
    mistake 1..she said..its fine but cant I read body language? she was just shocked at the timing , but would of liked a kiss later.
    mistake 2...she wanted to talk through and why I said such a horrid joke
    mistake 3..she discussed but dismissed.

    She also said..it was a perfect date up until then and would of been so perfect if we had left before the second place.
    she said she fancied me and was gutted and didnt know what to do...
    she then went through it all again and said she didnt know what to do
    I of course was very sorry for what I said..I really am, wasnt a nice joke.
    She then said.."maybe we should meet up more friendly and go shopping or something....."

    I said , sleep on it, I'm tired, ill call her the next day and she said.."txt me"

    next Day:

    I txt her late afternoon to say.."I'm sorry about the joke..was nice to meet you and chat, ..talk later"
    I leave it..didnt expect a reply anyway..then about midnight I txt "heya. im just heading to bed..fancy a call in a bit?" (we both like to stay up late, last I called was similar time 1am? and texting to make sure she was up,)

    Then I leave it 10 and text "I'm heading to town tomorrow anyway for an appointment to get contacts, thought might be a bit of an adventure to put things aside us, and do a bit of shopping as friends while I'm there, I have a few bits to get and splash out on, be great to see you, let me know and I'll see you there! "

    she text "I'm in town....."
    I sleep..now its today...I leave it all and have not contacted her..I saw her online but said nothing..so I know she is home..I thought about calling and seeing if shes up for something tomorrow but decided no..maybe ill ring her tomorrow or Sunday instead..but then is that leaving it too long as if I'm playing a game?

    Any suggestions?
    I can ignore and move on, but we did connect and went really well, id like to see her again, even if it was just friends...


    Date : weds
    Thursday: txt; she went to town
    Friday: didnt txt her, left it all day, she was online
    Its now sat

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    Default Re: Awful Date Recovery? Phoned me after to talk about it ..

    bro, she likes you. it's very clear, based on how your story went down. i think you need to just relax and not overthink everything. you are clearly trying too hard. The kissing, the joke, the being a dck to the guy, I think you were in a state of just trying too hard. Also running game while really drunk can mess things up. Whatever you were doing in the beginning seems to be your natural state, which was working and she clearly felt something for you. I would just text her and set up a meeting alone. Maybe during the day so you are not drunk. And just be yourself. Forget that any of that other stuff happened. Go into the date being whoever you were in the beginning of the other date. I think that will work. She is clearly into you. Don't wait too much longer to set up that date or meeting.
    The world is your matrix. You control the strings.

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    diehard87 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Awful Date Recovery? Phoned me after to talk about it ..

    oki thanx, I didnt mean to get drunk, just being social, I'm a lightweight is turns out lately as I havent drunk for a while..didnt eat and worked out that day...oops (blood and fitness levels influence)



    I called her today, she picked up, I chatted for a bit to be nice, talked aboutt he snow, she seemed v.tired and bored on the phone.

    I said I'm heading to town Monday, and she should she come.

    she said:
    She has to find a job...not made any plans..not sure what shes doing monday...
    was quite dismissive...and told me to text her or call her monday and see...


    a bit of a blow off,

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    diehard87 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Awful Date Recovery? Phoned me after to talk about it ..

    OKi UPDATE:

    called her today, was iffy...now tis night

    she is on a night out, txt me bullshit to say hi


    her: Im in a (A club).who the are sara and jason haha
    me: just friends, (club name)! Ive never been in there yet!
    me:Jase n sara have gone home, I can either walk home or, how about I meet you at Aruba?
    (did I play this right??)

    her:I'm n a girls night or else i'd say yes.maybe we could watch a movie or something ::-)



    so that's an invite...when I called earlier I asked her about monday...I'm temped to text back saying "sure come over tomorrow and we can watch a film"
    (MY HOUSE IS A SHIT STY...I would rather go there.haha) <- 3 brothers...no chairs...just gym eqpt
    I do have a projector tho and a 10ft screen just no chairs...

    what do I do, suggest tomorrow..leave it...suggest another day int he week?


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