I went on a date with a girl, POF date. Sorry if this post gets long..its all steps..I believe this is recoverable...she says she likes me but..
I'm new to any PUA, not done any, reading and learning.
first hours went fantastic, connection, smiles, touching me.
We went to a second place and I hadn't eaten all day, worked out and the drink hit me a bit, I tried to kiss her in totally the wrong place! She was not that phased tho... smiled and went and got us more drinks.
Then she kept looking at my lips etc, and started to tell me a very very deep story, about family..the mood was so low after I made a stupid joke about it to bring the mood up...why?! and altho it was hilarious..iT REALLLY UPSET HER...she said she almost walked away but stayed.. and wanted to talk about what happened and why?
some drunk came over and trying alpha..I wasnt happy anyway and nearly walked myself as I felt I messed it up..I was a bit of a dick to him as he started calling me names..I turned to him and engaged him with convo but shot him down which she thought was not nice and made me look like a dick...and she stuck up for him..oops..but she said she didnt care as she could see why I shot him down in convo .
...I walk home..o well..that's over,....move on..
then I get a text
"Hiya,in the interest of keeping to my honesty policy,i'd say i thought u were a good guy,and we had lots in common,but then felt a bit awkward with some things that were said etc!not sure what to do really.."
then I get a call straight after to talk through what happened...
mistake 1..she said..its fine but cant I read body language? she was just shocked at the timing , but would of liked a kiss later.
mistake 2...she wanted to talk through and why I said such a horrid joke
mistake 3..she discussed but dismissed.
She also said..it was a perfect date up until then and would of been so perfect if we had left before the second place.
she said she fancied me and was gutted and didnt know what to do...
she then went through it all again and said she didnt know what to do
I of course was very sorry for what I said..I really am, wasnt a nice joke.
She then said.."maybe we should meet up more friendly and go shopping or something....."
I said , sleep on it, I'm tired, ill call her the next day and she said.."txt me"
I txt her late afternoon to say.."I'm sorry about the joke..was nice to meet you and chat, ..talk later"
I leave it..didnt expect a reply anyway..then about midnight I txt "heya. im just heading to bed..fancy a call in a bit?" (we both like to stay up late, last I called was similar time 1am? and texting to make sure she was up,)
Then I leave it 10 and text "I'm heading to town tomorrow anyway for an appointment to get contacts, thought might be a bit of an adventure to put things aside us, and do a bit of shopping as friends while I'm there, I have a few bits to get and splash out on, be great to see you, let me know and I'll see you there! "
she text "I'm in town....."
I sleep..now its today...I leave it all and have not contacted her..I saw her online but said nothing..so I know she is home..I thought about calling and seeing if shes up for something tomorrow but decided no..maybe ill ring her tomorrow or Sunday instead..but then is that leaving it too long as if I'm playing a game?
I can ignore and move on, but we did connect and went really well, id like to see her again, even if it was just friends...
Date : weds
Thursday: txt; she went to town
Friday: didnt txt her, left it all day, she was online
Its now sat