Re: I am sooo confused by this girl. PLEASE HELP! i like her ALOT
There is so much going on here so I will tell you as much as I can, but I won't be able to tell you everything.
First, you did NOT do everything right. Otherwise she would be really into you right now and not constantly rejecting you...correct? So obviously you are doing something wrong, but because you are comparing to what teachers, parents, friends, and movies have told you, you feel what you have been doing is the right thing and she is just not responding like she should.
You are in the friend zone hard and don't realize it. That's why she freaked out saying "Omg I can never have a guy friend." She MEAN'T it. Because she didn't see you as something more than a friend.
I am sorry you are feeling this way, but someone needs to give you a reality check. Realize that all her reasons, her "shield", are MENTAL not PHYSICAL. Meaning that they are not tangible, so not real. If she says she has trusts issues then you say, "Join the club! Who DOESN'T have trust issues." You fell into her frame and now are asking her to give YOU a chance. NOT a good position to be in. In an ideal situation she would be trying to prove to YOU why you should give HER a chance. It's all about your frame of mind. Are you the prize...or her.
My views on your situation is this...she is trouble and you need to leave her alone. You have this feeling that you want to SAVE or FIX her. I can tell you now that, that is NEVER a good mindset to have about your PARTNER. A friend? Yes..... A sibling? Yes...... Classmate? Yes....... Your lover? NOOOO. You should be equals roughly. Not a parent/child relationship nor a counselor/client relationship. It will only bring you down and cause you more trouble than you need. I'm speaking from experience.
However, sometimes we need to make those mistakes and learn the hard way. If you decide to keep chasing her (which you likely will) then you should learn what we have to offer. Get started on some material that is offered on this forum and get yourself a copy of The Venusian Artist Handbook. It's a good starting point and you'll learn the foundations of what we know. Hope this helped and good luck.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."