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Thread: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

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    Default HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    Alright fellas here is the scenario. My best friend and his girlfriend introduced me to a great girl at the bar the other night who is buds with the girlfriend. Her and I went to elementary school together years ago and had some instant rapport and a decent little chat. We sortve talked about just general stuff, what each other had been upto, where we work etc. It went ok, but it was fairly general talk, im not player enough yet to really build the attraction or sexual tension but she was smiling and pleasant. I kept my distance, wasnt too keen on her, didnt buy her a drink or anything, kept it pretty casual. No number close to future plans made at all. I know she is on the Facebook and havent added her yet. I also just saw her on a dating site so I now know she is single and looking. So, between facebook, dating site and knowing her friend who surely has her number, how should I go about it? I dont really wanna use the dating site, I dont have a pic on there and I feel like just being on there decreases my value. Facebook is a good way to chat with someone, but should I just get my friends to set it up?
    I have a small Jewelry business with a facebook page. She thought this was cool and I told her to like us on facebook but the page has a peculiar name and we were drinking im not surpised she hasnt liked us yet. She also loves this restaurant that I occassionally work at and I think this would be a good place to take her.
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Im sure she will get together with me if I go about it the right way.

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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    As I posted on this topic before, Facebook can be a powerful tool to DHV, but it depends on whether you have a kickass Facebook... so I refrain from advising you to go with FB, although it might be good. But in your case, I think the obvious answer is to ask your friend for her number, and then text her something like, "Hey you, Jen gave me your number. How you doing elementary school buddy?" Thus brining back, the pleasant rapport connection you had... plus Jen giving you her number is an implicit approval of you, so target will know that subconciously.... good luck bro!
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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    wait, don't ask the friend for the number, instead add her on fb, chat with her on there and ask for her number from her. no offense but getting the number from her friend seems a bit too needy for my style. plus this avoids her inevitable question " how did you get my number?"
    it just seems a bit creepy to get her # from her friend rather than from her when you have her fb at your disposal. she should accept your friend request simply because she knows you

    also, you call her "marriage material" you don't know her well enough to give her that title. i wouldn't consider any woman to be marriage material until she has passed all my tests, and i'm thinking of proposing to her, just sayin...

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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    thanks for both replies fellas. I think i prefer the facebook method as its not getting someone else to do my work. though I do not have a very 'kickass' fb account. really not much of a facebooker and dont have many pics but i figure if i can send a good message with friend request it wont matter much. how far do i go with the opening message? like we talked about how we both like to goto this place and eat the awesome food there I wanna tell her I was planning on going down there soon for a feast and she better come along.
    and by marriage material, she has passed the tests so far lets say. i know she aint the type that im gonna wham bam thank you maam anyway. she might end up being a dolt, but at nearly 6 foot, set of D's and long blonde hair matched with gorgeous face, im thinking ring already!! hahah.
    thanks again. any further words?

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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    i wouldn't send her any message with the friend request, once again you don't want to come off as needy. and to re-affirm my point, no girl is good enough for marriage material on looks alone. you should want answers to questions like: what she is like?, can she cook?, what are her friends like?
    beauty is only skin deep. for a girl to be marriage material, she needs something far more valuable than big tits and a nice @ss. she needs personality.

    she is more than just a peice of meet, and it disgusts me, that sex is all you think about when determining the person you want to marry smh....

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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    Youre taking the marriage material thing a little too seriously man. "Im thinking ring already" wasnt to be taken too seriously thats why it was followed with the laugh. I never said I was going to marry her based on her looks alone. I reiterate, by marriage material, I mean that I consider he physically attractive enough to be my mate. Does she need personality and intelligence on top of it? Of course. I dont base these things on sex, yet that being said, I wouldnt marry a girl that has an amazing personality if she was dog ugly, obese and didnt take care of herself. Looks are really the first big impression, and by simply looking at this girl, I knew she was hot enough to be marriage material.
    I really appreciate the advice on the best way to meet up with this girl, I really dont need to be told what I should be looking for in a wife. Thats a fairly subjective and personal matter.
    Is it needy? Im adding her to facebook and I want to talk to her. Ill just end up messaging or chatting with her anyways, whats wrong with sending a coy, or cockfunny message along with the request?

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    Default Re: HB 9.2, Marriage Material, Some Advice Please

    Getting her # from her friend, absolutely don't do. I speak from experience. Backfired on me back during my college AFC days.

    As for sending her a message along with a friends request, you can do. It will only look needy depending on the message you send. In Cajun's guide to online dating, it's something he advises to do. Send a kickass original message to spark an emotional response. On the same token, he does advise having a good fb acct to increase your chances. As long as you don't live in a big city and have under 100 friends, you will actually DLV yourself. If she does accept your request you might want to add a follow up message something along the lines of.

    "...to be honest I don't use facebook very much, but I just wanted to..."

    Then from there hit her up on chat, stay on her radar and work towards a number close.

    I've tried both ways in the past, a blind request (no message) and with message. The girls who just accept blind invites are the ones with lots of friends who want to pad their friends count with lots of guys to pay them compliments. If the girl, is one of those types with limited friends, it means she is just adding people she knows/have met. So you have to gauge them accordingly.

    Regardless, I had more success with a good message.


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