Hi, I've met the most gorgeous and smart girl ever 10 days ago and I'm desperate for help.
I'm completely new to the PUA thing, just started reading the game today. I'm the typical AFC but not an extreme case, I guess, as I found out today I sort of have 3 of the characteristics of the Alpha-male, I'm very well groomed, I have some confidence (depending of the scenario) and girls love my smile. I'm 36, MBA, she's 28 with masters education. I could even marry this girl, seriously.
Here is the full story (sorry if too long):
Met her on a club on wednesday 9, she and her friend were the ones that approached us. Happened that she works in the same industry. After a moment she asked me my phone and propose to meet any day for dinner. She was eager to talk to me, standing by my side and making eye contact all the time. She soon went home and I didn't try anything.
Thursday 10th morning she added me on Wechat and after chatting 2 hours ask me my Facebook. I ask her for dinner, she says yes. Finally cancelled cos of a business meeting. Next day she was traveling to Beijing. Coincidently I had to go too to renew my passport. Told her I'm considering to stay for the weekend, we could hang out together, otherwise if she is busy I could go back in the same day. She said come. Ask her which area she stays, she gave me hotel name and address.
Friday we went out for dinner by ourselves, after that met her friends and hang out the rest of the night. She was staring at me and giving me smiles all the time, so much that I was completely intimidated. Went back to hotel together and just said good night. I wanna kill myself for not having tried anything on the elevator or the aisle!
Saturday morning she text how did I sleep, I said "not so good, cos I couldn't take something out of my head", she is curious but I told her prefer not to tell her. We spent the whole day together and had great conversation. Dinner with a girlfriend of her and then at a pub alone again. She ask "what was that thing that made you not sleep good". I initially refuse to tell her but then think, ok if she is asking, she might be guessing it, maybe is easier just to tell her, I was dying for her already. We were holding hands already, told her I like her so much, she seems to like it, but says "don't know, I'm not sure, I have to think it". I said "let's find out" then on the way to kiss her she stopped me. But didn't get cold, we keep drinking, I touch her, hold her hands, she searches for our horoscope compatibility, she even asked me how am I in bed!!! I thought I was on the right track, slowly but steady. Could see the brightness in her eyes and felt connected. Then we move to a club and just arriving she accidentally finds an old "friend", nothing special, but he had 5 Alpha-male friends, each one better than the other. She introduced herself to them and I was ignored the rest of the night, they hitting on her one after other…. depressing to say the least. Had some other girls trying to approach me but I wasn't interested at all. I left even without saying goodbye after a while. Big mistake again cos perhaps she would have decided to go back too.
Sunday 13th early morning after just 5 hours of sleep she starts texting me. She says she "likes me a lot but don't want to have any relationship right now". She tells me, without asking her, that she didn't make out with any guy and asked me if I did. Told her of course I didn't. We were going to meet for brunch with a business partner. I was still destroyed by the hangover and skipped it. Fly back home. When I landed she has texted me again.
Monday she flies back too, tells me "i'm back in town". And she has been initiating texting with me for everyday of the week in the morning, at lunch, in the afternoon, in the evening!!! All the time!! And it was all super nice, felt so close. Thought I still have chances!
Wednesday 16th meet for dinner and she proposes cooking at my place another day. Went to a club, dance a bit, talk with other friend we found there, but I didn't know how to get closer to her…
After a while others leave, and we have more intimate conversation. At some point I stand her up her chair by both hands and put her very close to me. She smiles and stares and ask me if I don't mind she's a bit taller than me (yep, just 2cm and she seems to care). I told her not at all. Then I was going to check how big difference it is by approaching my nose to hers, she thought I was going to kiss her and moved her face. That got me nervous and I screwed it. Asked her, stupidly, if I still have any chance, she says "maybe not". I say, that could be then a "maybe yes". Then she says "probably not"…. She said she's still not over a guy with whom was out a year ago in a different country (is true, she has pictures on fb), though is almost impossible they would go back together. We decide to leave and back home, was actually late.
I text her on the ride back home to apologize for making her uncomfortable, mistake again. She said she wasn't but "she really thinks we should be just friends"…… damn
Thursday 17th she keeps texting me again, and Friday I ask her for dinner WITH friends, she says yes. She cancelled last minute cos was tired and got the period.
Saturday she texts to me AGAIN and asks me for brunch and a walk around my neighborhood, which is the most romantic area of the city. I thought perfect plan! Cancelled again last minute cos her father asked her to accompany him and couldn't reject. No more communication until night 1am, she text me again all nice and ask me to meet very early in the morning, cos later she has to meet some customers. I reject cos I'm out with friends and would be deadly tired.
Yesterday we chatted a bit but she was busy, and today I swore to myself I would not text or call her and she didn't either.
We may be meeting tomorrow or wednesday and I have NO CLUE how should I behave!!
Probably my chances are tiny as hell, but I don't care, I wanna try whatever the cost.
Should I let her breath and just talk as a friend, don't try anything? Or go straight, seek body contact, flirt and lure her? I guess is the second but I do not know how to do it!! Don't want to get into a very awkward situation and ruin it completely.
I've never liked a girl so much in my life, she is really unique and is driving me crazy!
Many thanks in advance, your help will be ENORMOUSLY APPRECIATED.