Long story, please bare with me. Met a girl at work 10 months ago and we connected from day 1. she had a bf of 3 1/2 years but they we're breaking up and the sexual tension between us was huge, I knew when they break up I was in 100%. and 3 weeks later they did. So we hooked up straight away. Made myself too easy and after spending everynight together for 2 weeks she said we should just be friends, things going to quick after her break up. I was pretty destroyed cos we had something real and the attraction was very mutual.
SO things are weird for like 2 months especially working together in same space, she was being off to me, I was trying harder, then as I start to improve myself and start caring less she wants to hang out again. We do a few times and it's good but still blowing hot and cold and confusing me about if we just friends or more again.I find a new job a month later and that's when she suddenly started liking me big time again and asking to see me all the time.
2 weeks of seeing each other again constantly she goes cold again and says she needs space and just needs to be alone. I back off again and it's the same thing again. Loving me one Day, the next like a stranger and back to just friends. Everytime she gives me the let's just be friends, we end up hooking up again sometime the next day. Everytime I asked her what's up should we just be friends she wants more, then goes back to cold. Keeps telling me she's confused how she feels about me.
We have a real connection which I haven't had before and even she said it. So about 2 months ago when she was blowing hot and cold I found out about it. Her and the ex we're talking again and hanging out. When I first found out she said I don't need to worry they just talk a little. I asked her if he wants her back, she said no he just wastes her time. She complain so much that he became her nightmare when they we're together and he never let her do anything. Her words, she was in a cage always. Now lately she has been cold to me and for a week didn't want to talk to me.
Eventually we spoke briefly and she said our brains need a break and she knows we can never just be friends. But just the week before I asked her one night after being very confused did she like me or was she maybe didn't Wana just tell me we wouldn't be together. She said she liked me and then that week she went cold. Now we haven't really spoken on 2 weeks since she said the thing bout us can't just be friends. Deep down I know that too cos I love her and she feels something too. She said the ex and her aren't involved now but I think she's lying to me.
It's been 2 weeks since we spoke. I have been doing my thing but I miss her now and want to know what's up. If she is back with him then she can tell me. Do I leave her to contact me? Do I ask her what's up? Im so lost cos this is the longest we never spoken for, even when she was cold to me she would still call me everyday. She said the way things are with us is much more easy and relaxed than with the ex... please help. I just want to know what's going but I don't know if I should ask her or wait longer. We are so close, even just as friends/ lovers, whatever. I know her sister, her mom. We have been seeing each other at least 3 times a week speaking every night, one night recently we we're hanging with one of her new friends and the friend saw how close we we're and asked her about me, and I overheard her say I'm her best friend, yet we spent the whole next day together and hooked up and slept together. I can't just forget her like if it was just another normal girl who was giving me sh1t, who I would a kicked out long ago. But now we not speaking suddenly for 2 weeks.