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Thread: What to do now with girl talking to other guy?

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    Default What to do now with girl talking to other guy?

    So here's the situation: I've been friends with this girl for about a year or so now, we see each other nearly everyday. However, within the past couple of months ive come out of a long relationship and ive been trying to break the friendship barriers to get to know her better. Within the past month over our college's winter break things were going great even though we didnt physically see eachother, we were texting everyday for long periods of time. We've been back on campus for the new semester for about 2 weeks now and we've already been on a couple of dates (I kissed her on the lips after both).

    However, a couple days ago I mentioned that I was really interested in seeing a particular movie and I asked if she wanted to join me. At that point she confessed she was also talking to another guy she had gotten close with over winter break (he also attends our university, he is a total chump btw).

    This was at a party and at the time I was slightly drunk and mistakenly told her how much better she was than him, and then I went on to tell her to decide what she wants but I'm also going to talk to other girls in the meantime.

    For the past 4 days I havent texted her at all and have tried to avoid seeing her in person, in order to potentially generate some attraction through distance. It seems to be working a little bit, when I do see her she seems to be a bit more flirtatious, however, I am very short when I speak to her and try to distance myself and only talk with her friends.

    My question is: How long should I wait? I am currently talking to other girls now but this is one i'd really like to be with. Also I cant avoid seeing her in some situations such as being in the same study group for a particular class. Should I just strictly keep it business in those situations?

    Short version: HB9 im interested in is also talking to another guy, I told her to decide and walked off and havent really talked to her since. How long should I wait before I ask her out again/should I just wait for her to come to me?

    Thanks for the help!

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    Default Re: What to do now?

    Long and better version: http://www.puaforums.com/how-seduce-...advantage.html

    Short version: You want to show her what she's missing...flirt with other girls in front of her. Talk to her about other girls (if you reinitiate contact). As far as this no contact thing, you can drop it and start using the triangles. Also, instead of no contact, try limited contact; ex - strictly business as you said.
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: What to do now?

    A few things... that is a long time to be friends. So that's a tough thing to overcome. If you took your friendship and texting, etc. to a sexual level (sexually charged texts, funny, etc.) then it will be easier. But it sounds like she likes you, but maybe not in a boyfriend way. A big thing is, telling her, you should decide, I think is always not a great approach. It makes you seem weak because YOU are WAITING for a decision from her. You gave her the power and control to decide where this relationship is going. I would recommend never doing that with anyone. It's a powerful thing. She on some level knows, now, that you are waiting for her.
    My recommendation is to truly try to disengage from her. Of course talk to her, be friendly, but disengage for awhile. Do your own thing, have your own social life, have your own set of girls that you are working, and let her see that. Not on purpose, but if you are truly going to go on a date with another girl and this hb9 says, let's hang out, say, sorry, but i'm hanging out with this girl, i gotta go, etc... There is no quick fix here. You have been friends for too long, and now you have the control to her. Give it time. I don't know exactly how much time, but it will take time with this one.
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    Default Re: What to do now?

    Thanks for the advice guys. Ive mentioned to her friends that I have set up a couple of dates for the next week, so im sure she is aware. Should I try to hit on her friends too, or would that be too much?

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    Default Re: What to do now with girl talking to other guy?

    I think that's too much and potentially obvious. Don't overthink it man. Keep your girl in the loop, be friendly, confident and cocky funny. But don't go after her obviously. just have a great time, be social, game on other girls, and the moment you stop thinking about her so much is when she's going to be all over you. Always works this way for some reason. Taht's why i try not to focus on any one girl- one-ism. It is so effective for your overall game to have a lot of stuff going on.
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