here's the story... i met my ex in a pub. details not necessary on the process but i got her. she has just gotten out of a serious 4 year relationship. i decided to stick it (big mistake). but she's an amazing girl i decided i will fight for her. so we hook up and everything is great WHEN we're together. once i leave her she starts thinking about her ex and things deteriorate. she was honest with me from the beginning, and i used every trick in the book. cocky funny, cold shoulders, caring, demonstrating high value. she would say things like: "you're a breath of fresh air" "i love how you make me forget all my troubles" "when i am with you i am not afraid of anything and dont care about anything" etc... you get the idea... she was happy i was happy but then she started feeling guilty because she's not able to get over her ex, i couldn't handle being the 2nd man so i told her i wont accept this and we should separate until she gets her shit together. we haven't talked for 2 months, up until the day i saw a gift i had for her but never gotten the chance to give her. i decided to give it to her, i was still hung up on her but not as much. i didnt wanna throw the gift coz, well, i fucking (excuse my french) paid for it. she texts saying we should meet to talk about it. 2 weeks later we meet. she drops these on me: "i miss you" "i miss our chats" "i would like to see you more" her getting back together with her ex didnt work... he was still the asshole who mistreats her and she realized that. but she also drops the "i am not seeing someone new now, just talking to him. and he knows about you (me)." when she described him, she used the same words she'd describe me. all through the night she would maintain eye contact (longer than 10secs!) + a smile. i told her "i miss her", "i wanna see her more often", "i miss talking to her" only after she said it first. dropped her home, she gave me a huge tigh hug... i could hear her sigh in relief... she kissed my cheek very hard and told me to stay in touch. during our relationship, whenever i'd leave her i would text her a smiley face. that night i did the same thing and she responds "a smiley ". i wish her good night.. 2 days later here i am.. small chit chat... i want her back... i read cody's article... i think i should see her next week(?!) but in the meantime i want to know how to play my cards... for once i am lost on what to do... i really want this girl.. so i would appreciate your advice.