There is a russian girl I am seriously into at the gym I go to in London - she really seems like LTR potential - and there are a lot of indicators that she is into me (see below), but the problem is she won't see me outside the gym as she is "seeing someone at this moment" (she didn't tell me until this week). We are both quite dedicated and train 2 or 3 times per day - over the last 3 weeks or so this is now usually together at every opportunity. we have got in to the habit of doing all the same classes, reserving bikes for each other, always being close together agreeing on our training schedule together, her persuading me to go to yoga classes together, and I convinced her to come to circuit training early in the mornings - we get on really well, spend heaps of time together but she seems reluctant to let herself go
Some evidence that she seems into me
we text each other about all the time (as an example today was over 120 texts each), pretty much constantly when we are both at work and during the evenings, i've started buying her coffee on route to the gym in the morning before work, at lunchtimes i'm getting her into the habit of meeting near work (we work close by each other) to walk to the gym together.
four different people this week in the gym have said to me that we seem really into each other, or that we would be a good couple. one of the trainers we see every day is always making teasing us about always being together, or asking whether we are glued at the hip.
Today he walked past us and asked when the wedding was and she just smiled and seemed to not mind. Earlier in the week he said to us that he always sees me talking rather than training and she hit me and asked who else I'd be talking to.
Last week she wanted some help with negotiating a salary increase she texted me when she was pissed off at work and we agreed to talk about it after training - so we had a serious chat for a while on a sofa in reception and wrote stuff down, she'd often be touching my leg to emphasise something - then when she dropped her diary and i pretended to steal it, things turned into a piggyback / wrestle in front of the receptionists.
one night this week we spent a couple of hours just sitting chatting on the stretching mats laughing and joking with a few guys i know giving me knowing looks. we would often be lying down close together - and there was plenty of contact - she's happy to get her hands on me at my suggestion 'to help with stretching my back'. She seems fairly comfortable with any contact or closeness together
Problem arises when I try and get her to go somewhere outside the gym - i've suggested lunches /dinner or drinks. I've made a start with the coffees in the morning that i collect and meet her on route, i'll try and make that meeting for a sit down coffee beforehand. as an example of her unwillingness to we walked past a poster for a comedy gig that i pointed out i was already going to and she said she'd thought about going too. so that afternoon i texted her to tell her i'd bought her a ticket.... she told me she hadn't said yes, i told her she wanted one so i got her one, her reply was that she has the right not to go and that is 99% likely to be the case and that i could recycle the ticket easily.
Without really knowing what doing, I thought maybe I should probably just kiss her in the gym on one of our mat sessions? - but it doesn't seem the right setting and i reckon she is likely to refuse given her mixed feelings with guilt for this guy she is supposed to be seeing. It can't be that serious if we are texting each other most evenings until bedtime - i doubt she'd do that if she was with him?
i figure if she has all this interest for me, that is surely enough of an indication that she reckons she isn't with the right guy or at least part of her wants to be with me? in my amateurish opinion (which could be miles out) she isn't going anywhere with me as she thinks things will happen if she does go out on a 'date' and she doesn't think it's right for her to stop seeing one guy to start seeing me. Maybe i'm miles out
would really appreciate any help how to get things moving - i really like this girl and to complicate matters i am being sent overseas for work for three months from the end of march and could lose ground :-( so ideally i'd like to have some kind of foundations in place before i go away so either she comes out to visit while i am away or is happy to continue things when i get back
Thanks for reading