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Thread: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

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    Default VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    Okay guys, here it is...

    I've been in pick up for about 3 years. Completely changed my life, made me what I wanted to be, women in abundance, value through the roof.

    I'd even consider myself somewhat "advanced" now...I was a virgin when I started...now I've slept with over 20 women, each of them high value...random women that I meet in bars. Fun times right!?

    So then this P.U.A here gets complacent, he forgets about "The Game" and starts playing it natural, he transitions better but he forgets all he learns when he meets a certain girl.

    This girl, he dates over summer...he doesn't see any other women, he's content with her company, she's great. Perfect for him even.

    He stops writing in third person.

    It becomes long distance when she goes off to college. No official "label" on it still at this point and it had been 3 months, due to me avoiding it. I wasn't ready and I wanted her to feel like she "changed" me from this player she met to this sweet guy. Giving her a sense of power and tapping into the maternal instinct.

    She decides to break it off with me back in November, because she can't do the long distance thing, she needs to focus on her studies yadda yadda yadda.

    It's been two months and it's consumed my every waking thought. I've slept with girls since her, girls that were better in bed, girls that were hotter, girls that were higher value socially to her...but she's still "it" y'know. The great white buffalo. The one that got away. The one I really, honestly want to be with.

    How guys, do I get this broad back with me...over long distance (it's not even that far away, 2 hours on a train.)

    Is there a long term plan I can play here? I'm not looking for a quick fix.

    I know she's still attracted me (a month after the "break up" we had a night in a club together, kissing/holding each other, telling each other we are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. We agreed that this wasn't like a final nail in the coffin sort of deal, one day we might be able to make it work...her words not mine.

    Major oneitis here right!?

    I know enough about to game to know that if I was special enough to her, if she cared about me enough...come hell or high water, we'd be together. But we're not. Here's where I need help. How do I make her think "fark I've made a huge mistake here".

    My value is very high thanks to pick up, thanks to my job, my age, my dress sense, my friends, my online personna, the fact that women actively, publicly show me sexual intent.

    We've left it well as friends. She messages me pretty much every week for a catch up, I never send the first message. She opens the dialogue then she allows it to fizzle out until she wants to speak to me again...

    I can't see, from a PUA perspective, what I'm missing...I really think I tick every box. So I'm hoping you guys can point out something glaringly obvious here and slap some sense into me.

    Please help.

    A very tired P.U.A,

    Strider

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    Default Re: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    Start with the cause of the break up..you in love? Did you tell her..did she want to marry? You did not? 2hours for some one you love or enjoy is not far. Start with the cause...or is it just an obsession....of course pua wont help because that's not pick up anymore. Why you never initiate talking to her first. Game stuck in you? If you think she is the one maybe it is time to say what you feel. Even I love you. If its just a trophy that maybe unhealthy obsession. Point is,figure it out. Go back in time and see feel what it is?

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    Default Re: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    Aw man, the thing that happened to you happens to a lot of guys.

    Sounds like you fell for someone, you made her the center of your world. She becomes your number 1. When that happens, you lose sexual polarity.

    So basically you lost your PUA edge and gave up your power/your value.

    You should always keep a little part of yourself for her to keep trying to win over.

    Don’t be a wuss to give in, especially in a relationship. There should always be something she needs to do for you or to prove to you in a cute way fun way.

    Your attention is your most valuable asset. When she has to work for your attention, it's like a shot of dopamine. That's how you become the source of her good emotions.

    That's how you become interesting because you are a challenge to her.
    You keep her on her toes. A challenging man is one of the traits of a man who is desired and women obsess over.

    It seems to me that is what you are missing because you have all the other physical things right and the social proof.

    It sucks that it is an LDR, however, 2 hours is not that long and you could make it work. It's not like you are across the ocean. You are going to have to be attractive again in her eyes in person and through a phone/text game when you can't see her.

    And it can happen. There was a poster Jaysmood who had a similar issue as you. With the aid of myself and T-Mal, he got her back in a month with just a slight freezeout and phone/text game.

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    Default Re: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    Amazing what a year can do...this was posted a year ago in January.

    She came back home for Summer, she had a boyfriend...she broke up with him a week in and came back to me! Buuut, I'd put this golden tint on her that she would never be able to live up to...she'd put on 5lbs maybe, and I let that put me off her.

    As pathetic as it sounds, I feel like I won my ego back. Of course I never trusted her, so I was sleeping with another girl throughout summer as well as her (who I'm now in a committed relationship with).

    I still think about her everyday, but I understand that's a terrible force of habit I've got myself into.

    I managed to get her back by gaming her like a pro, even when all hope was lost...I stuck to my plan of freezing her out, and letting her back in, freeze...and let, hot and cold, cat and string.

    Love this community!!!

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    Default Re: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    N Oops thought it said 2014...Now can I get advice I am over rafc but under rafc...is there a,word for it. My problem is,4 year dry spell..thats why I gave,my two cents because you experienced and me way down here...people over look the,simple things.

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    Default Re: VERY experienced P.U.A...yet I need some KILLER advice here...

    I mean over rafc and under pua..there a,term for it? Cus Im not frusterated


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