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    Exclamation Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Alright so it was a Friday night at college, so I decided to go out to a party.

    2 of my bros (yes i said bros its just easier to say that then guy friends) and I went out to this one party, it was alright, we hung out and socialized a little bit, then we walk up the road to another party, socialize some more, played some beer pong. I made some friends, guys and girls. So me these 2 girls and a guy I just met leave so I can go get this girl that was texting me to come get her....

    I met this girl last semester, never really hung out. I brought her out to a party, we walked back together but I never made a move, she went back to her room, I went back to mine. But whenever I see her I guess its kind of flirty, she gives me a hug when she sees me.

    Anywho, so shes texting me for me to walk and come get her because she was like the only girl at the party and guys were touching her and stuff (is that what she tells someone in the friendzone?) So me these 2 girls and this guy walk to the other party to go get this girl, I find her, she grabs my arm and I walk us out.

    Idk what happened to the 2 girls and guy so us 2 just leave. So were walking, its dumb cold out so I put my arm out and she loops hers through mine. We walked back to the original party where my 2 bros are, we get there, I sit down on a big chair she comes and sits down on the arm next to me. Holds my hands because hers are cold. So, that party died her and I walk back to our dorms (we live in the same building), so once we get in I told her im coming over to warm up in her room. We get to her place, sit down in the living room, she cooked us both mac and cheese, then I say I am going to go lie down in your room.

    Her bed has stuff on it so I lay down on her couch, were talking shes cleaning up (is that a IOI?)
    As shes cleaning shes had a blood pressure monitor since shes a nursing major. So, I tell her to take my blood pressure. She takes it, then continues to clean up. Were just talking though...like she didnt come sit down next to me or anything. So I just put my shoes on and tell her I have to leave, no hug goodbye I just said I have to go...lol I think i could have done that better.

    Anyway, what do you guys think!? Am I in the friendzone? How can I take it from here?

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Well, hand holding tends to not be quite so "friendly". Her cleaning off the bed is surely an IOI...not necessarily sex but that she wants you there. It is usually up to the man to make the first move. No one can say really where you are at until you try to make a move on her. You surely should have went for a kiss at least. Chances are she was nervous and hoping you would make the move from the sounds of it (that is if she doesn't just see you as a friend).

    Your real mistake here is WONDERING if you were just friends rather than FINDING OUT. You have to risk it to get the biskit. You should never place much thought on the outcome of the interaction. I do have one question for you though....

    Did you FEEL like she wanted to kiss you? Did you FEEL the tension? If you did, then chances are she did too.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Crap! I did feel the tension! But i didnt know how to go about it, i was laying on the couch and she was standing up. She sat next to me at the party so i figured she would do the same in her room. So how could i have made a move? I couldnt have just stood up and kissed her, right? You have to build up to it right?

    Did i blow it with this girl?

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Honestly, you probably should have just tried to kiss her. I like Chase Amante's rule: If you get a girl in your room or her room, make a move within ten minutes.

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Thats my fear, i dont know how to make a move...like she was standing i was sitting, i cant just walk up to her and kiss her...right?

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    dude while your lying down on the couch all you could've done was called her name and outstretched your hands like a hug or whatever so shed come there and you grabbed her (compliance test) and usually followed by a makeout

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    It won't let me edit my post above, but what I meant with my little tidbit on the outcome of an interaction:

    You should never think to much on the outcome of an interaction before or during the interaction, as it will cause you to loose focus on the actual interaction itself.

    Also, in a situation like that I would have probably went a bit more direct, like standing up and telling her to come to you, then place your hand under her chin and pull her in for a light kiss. Of course you want to be smiling and looking into her eyes while you do it. I can't remember who says it atm but SBAP - stop being a pussy, try to get what you want. Anyway enough of what you did wrong, what is your plan for the next interaction with her?
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    FU*K! I am scared of taking that step, i just need to say fark it and just go for it....

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    You're starting to let your emotions fuck you up. Get out of your head and think about something else. What you are doing is worrying about failure, but you won't ever find success if you focus on all of the negatives.

    It's like that seen in Indiana Jones and the last crusade, near the end when he has to take the leap of faith. He's freaking the fuck out but, eventually reasons within his brain to set his fear aside and believe in God and just do it.

    That said hang out with her like you always have don't be any different than you have been the last couple times. In fact don't even think about how to act, just do. And like Blistex said above, once you feel the tension pull her in and kiss her.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Rate My night! Friend-zoned?

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    dude while your lying down on the couch all you could've done was called her name and outstretched your hands like a hug or whatever so shed come there and you grabbed her (compliance test) and usually followed by a makeout
    The famous clinch as I like to call it. Just get her in nice and close and the rest should be easy.


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