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    Default Need advice...

    Hey guys,

    I wanted to write this to seek your wisdom on something's I'm still having trouble with.

    See, whenever I'm in a interaction or think about getting in a interaction, I keep thinking of these weird things:

    I think if I try to go for a kiss, I'll get a slap to the face or a punch in the face from her BF.

    I think If I try to go for a escalation or kino, she might take it wrong way and think I'm trying tommolest her.

    And so on and so forth.

    I don't know if these things would actually happen, but they kinda prevent me from even doing anything or make approaches.

    In fact, I've concocted this grand scene in my head that if I go to approach a girl at a bar, she either laughs at me, slaps me, or whatever, then her BF comes over and kicks my ass, then the employees throw me out because I tried to escalate or make out with the girl or even just having a escalating interaction.

    Now, this scenario may seem asinine, but often our imagination is.

    Guys, I know I've posted before about these inner game issues, and I apologize for bringing it up again.

    I have noticed improvements even in other aspects in my life from this material, but when it comes to the actual women part, I'm still struggling.

    And pieces of advice to finally quell these self doubts and beliefs?

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    Default Re: Need advice...

    Raven,

    It might sound stupid but I try to, very quickly, notice something small about the woman that is a turn-off (smudged make-up, not so perfect teeth, a pimple). I keep that in my head and suddenly I'm a lot more confident around her.

    Not to sound arrogant but it also makes me feel that I am more of the prize to her, than her to me.

    Also, if you can approach within a few seconds you won't start to build up these thoughts.

    Remember, this girl knows absolutely nothing about you aside from physical qualities you can present yourself however you wanted and she wouldn't know any different.

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    D.M.

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    Default Re: Need advice...

    Quote Originally Posted by D.M. Evans View Post
    Raven,

    It might sound stupid but I try to, very quickly, notice something small about the woman that is a turn-off (smudged make-up, not so perfect teeth, a pimple). I keep that in my head and suddenly I'm a lot more confident around her.

    Not to sound arrogant but it also makes me feel that I am more of the prize to her, than her to me.

    Also, if you can approach within a few seconds you won't start to build up these thoughts.

    Remember, this girl knows absolutely nothing about you aside from physical qualities you can present yourself however you wanted and she wouldn't know any different.

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    D.M.
    Yeah, I see what you mean. It's just self sabotage I think


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