OK, so im not that experienced on dealing with women. I have had sex with few but never been even close to relationship. But i met this single mom, divorced sometime during last year, two small kids. Around 30 years, im little bit older.
Met her at the bar, she was talking to my friends and i told her my name etc. Went on hitting other women, danced with couple, kissed one etc. Around closing time saw her upset and sitting alone and asked whats the problem and talked a little bit. Ended up telling her one of my childhood stories and i was getting LOTS of positive signs. She wanted to dance so we went dancing. Spun her around few times and then she "attacked" me with heavy kissing and I pulled away after few kisses. Then she told me she wanted to sleep with me, but only sleep because she didnt want ONS's.
Managed to piss her off with cocky funny but she quickly forgot it and we slept and i didnt try anything. In the morning lots of kissing and talking. Tried a little bit to get sex but no go. At first she didnt want to give me her number because she didnt want a relationship. Kids, work, ex etc. I told her thats crazy talk at this point and i even cant be in relationship because of my work etc. We kissed and i left.
Few days later texted her some funny stuff and ended up making a bad joke which i apologized and i was forgiven. Few days later i sent her some lame SMS's and didnt get any answer. About week later i phoned her and did get her laugh and she told me i was really funny but she didnt want relationship. I told neither did i but i had good time with her and she agreed. Next week phoned her couple times more but no answer.
Saw her in the bar couple of weeks later and flirting was on from the get go. For some reason(propably her friend) tension ended so we danced in a group. Didnt get chance to talk her but told her it was rude not to answer when i call. She hugged me and said good bye. Called her few days later and she was having good time talking to me and complimented me on my positive attitude. Told her i understand her situation and said i was going to see if things have changed in few months. Told it funny way, cant remember exactly what but something like "when sun starts shining again your going to be really horny and thats what i want to see". She said propably no but laughed a lot.
Few weeks of no contact and sent her SMS during new year and got answer. Few days later a funny SMS, no answer. Week later saw her at the bar. She came to talk to me and was telling my friends that we are only friends. I laughed and teased her a bit. She got little upset. Couple of hours later she was dancing so i went to dance with her and talked a little bit. Nightclub closed so i went home and added her on FB. Instantly got a SMS "are you still wake". Answered "yes". She "so whats going to happen now?". I phoned her. She was giving me shit test and told me that i should be nice or she wouldnt talk to me anymore. Told her thats up to her but she needs to come to sleep with me. She tried to change the subject and i told her to shut up and get a taxi. So she said yes and came to my house. Little bit of talking and we went to bed and had sex and went to sleep.
In the morning she is telling me about 6 months of selibacy, how she wants to have sex really bad etc. She told me that she had made promise to hershelf that she wouldnt have sex with me ever but had a feeling that some point it was going to happen. Also told me that she was happy she didnt have ONS's with some guy she would regret etc and if it had to happen then i was the best choice. Told me also that shes is really picky with men and i told her that so is every woman i know. We had fun talking and kissing etc. When she left she said that maybe we would see in the same circumstanses, BUT MAYBE. But definately will be in contact. I didnt say anything.
Called her few days later and she was really sick so not much talking. She was ill for a couple of weeks so some SMS's of how she was doing etc. Called her yesterday to see if she was OK. She had company so i told her i had to tell a joke i heard to her. She didnt get, i teased her, she got defensive but no big deal. Told her i would explain it to her some time. She said maybe. So i asked when we could see, she didnt really say anything. I told her it would nice to see her, she said maybe. She was little bit serious so i teased her on playing hard to get. She laughed and i said goodbye.
So, basicly i know that she is really busy with kids, work etc. When she is atleast little bit drunk shes really into me. Wants to know stuff about me, laughs at my jokes, doesnt get offended easily, lets me do stuff to her etc. But when we talk in the phone shes not interested on me but likes to talk to me and even calls me back when she cant answer. But she never calls me or texts me unless i do it first. Also i know that she has talked about me with her friends because they had some insider jokes about me.
Im not really sure how to proceed. I can only see her when im at the bar but she is reluctant to tell me when she is going. There was a point to the joke i told her and she didnt get it so i thought maybe i should send her a SMS that there is point to that story and i will tell it when she gets the joke. And maybe then freeze her out for a couple of weeks or more? Also thought about confronting her and tell her to stop playing games but propably thats too needy? Or maybe just start giving her commands through SMS's. Something like "come here, i want to sleep with you" even though i know she cant because of the kids etc. I know i need to get the command but she most likely keeps ignoring me untill i contact her or see her at the bar.
And she propably knows that im open to seeing other women at the moment but doesnt know if im seeing anybody or anything like that.