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    Default Rs5096 or Red Baron: Help please!

    I've been having oneitis from my ex (broke up about 1-2 months ago) and REALLY need some help on my inner game. I realize that we broke up for a reason (She was crazy obsessive) and know that I don't want to go out with her again, but every now and then turn to a little AFC wishing she would take me back. My problem is that I hardly EVER talk to any other girls and know from stickies about getting your ex back that this is crucial, but I get so trapped in my head and it is preventing me from being with other women. I simply have lost all my confidence and over think absolutely EVERYTHING! It has gotten to the point where I don't even know how to laugh because I have to think about if something is funny or not and couldn't tell you the last time I've had a genuine belly laugh or a good time.

    I've started dieting and working out to try and gain some confidence (I put on a couple of relationship pounds), as well as meditating everyday to try and live in the moment but still can't seem to figure it out. ANY suggestions would be appreciated as to how I can start being the man I KNOW I'm capable of being!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CallofTheWildman View Post
    I've been having oneitis from my ex (broke up about 1-2 months ago) and REALLY need some help on my inner game. I realize that we broke up for a reason (She was crazy obsessive) and know that I don't want to go out with her again, but every now and then turn to a little AFC wishing she would take me back. My problem is that I hardly EVER talk to any other girls and know from stickies about getting your ex back that this is crucial, but I get so trapped in my head and it is preventing me from being with other women. I simply have lost all my confidence and over think absolutely EVERYTHING!
    I can understand your pain. I recently went through the same stuff. Every now and again, the memories of my past relationship just creep back up and cause my chest to wrench up. However, I knew that I had to move on and I forced myself to do so. It takes a while for these things to go away.

    There are some things I did however that helped me out. The first I did was to come up with a list of reasons I broke up with her and expanded off of them. I also focused more on the future than on the past. I began to think of what I could get in the future if I worked at it than what could have been in the past had I done things differently.

    Quote Originally Posted by CallofTheWildman View Post
    I've started dieting and working out to try and gain some confidence (I put on a couple of relationship pounds), as well as meditating everyday to try and live in the moment but still can't seem to figure it out.
    This is one of the greatest things you can do right now. When I got my six pack back in January, that was one of the greatest feelings I had to be able to walk around knowing I had abs of steel. I also do a lot of visualization stuff to relax myself and release tension. I think what would help you is to do it because you want to make yourself look better, rather than do it just to try to forget something in the past.

    I love using the Lion King for references, mainly because some of the stuff in there actually is insightful. As Rafiki says,

    "The past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it"

    As long as you keep trying to do everything you can to run away from and forget the past, you will only continue to hurt yourself. You need to confront your past, identify why you did what you did, stand strong by your verdict, and move on. These sort of things are tough, but there is a point where something has simply gone on for too long. You're not at that point yet, but be aware of when it does come.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Rs5096 or Red Baron: Help please!

    Hey Swagman, I appreciate the posts you have been sharing.. A lot of good stuff in there. It really helps when decide to look at your future instead of dwell on the past. I still do from time to time, but knowing that the future can be better is what keeps me going!


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