Re: Advice needed: Inner game..
The best way to tell is to ask yourself if you are in control or have you given all control over to a woman? If your happiness is dependent upon that women, she has you. If you are supplicating to her out of fear of losing her, she has you. In fact, if you're scared of losing her, more likely than not she has you.
Originally Posted by .complete.noob
In my mind, this is what being alpha means. You don't need anyone elses validation to be happy with who you are. If you do something and someone else doesn't like it or judges you for it, it doesn't matter because you don't need their approval anyways (this isn't to say you shouldn't take others into consideration, it just means that you are comfortable enough with yourself that the judgments of others don't affect you). It's being in control of your own states. If someone says, "I'm only happy with her," this is the most beta statement ever because you're handing the power over your happiness to someone else.
Are you in control or is she? In your case, it's quite clear what the answer is and I don't even know you!
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."