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    Default Advice needed: Inner game..

    I miss my ex. I have for a long time, I think I've worked out why I have this one-itis.

    It's the feeling of power, that I now lack.

    She was an eleven out of ten (beauty in the eye of the beholder, yes, she might not be your perfect.. but not one guy on earth would disagree that she's an extremely attractive girl) and that's the rush, I think. The reason I can't let go.

    Forget the car you can buy, the bank account.. The quality of the girl you're waking up next to gives you that powerful feeling.

    That's what I need again. The ultimate power. The most beautiful girl you've laid eyes on, giving you her love. Everytime she was at my side, I would see the envy in the eyes of other men walking by.

    I need that again. How do I let ex go, so I can focus on putting my life together, in order to attract another girl who is drop dead gorgeous?!

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Ok, maybe that sounds messy. It's not just about other guys being jealous, it's about seeing that pretty face when you wake up, it's about the body, the rush of being close to a girl who is perfect in your eyes, the feeling of being in a dream.. Feeling like you're the king of the world..

    I need to let go of her, so I can have that feeling again.

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    fark that sh1t. I'd rather wake up beside a Bugatti Veyron than a needy woman. But that's just me

    But don't try to get that feeling again. That feeling is neediness. It's not healthy. You want to be comfortable with who you are despite what others think of you. Seriously, find what makes you happy (that's not "who" makes you happy).

    Trust me, we've all had onitis. I was with my first love for 8 1/2 years. I was her first EVERYTHING. But when it's over it's over. You need to just look yourself in the mirror and say, "I'm the farking man and I don't need a woman on my arm to prove it to myself."

    If I can put it to you eloquently. Stop being a bitch!
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    fark that sh1t. I'd rather wake up beside a Bugatti Veyron than a needy woman. But that's just me

    But don't try to get that feeling again. That feeling is neediness. It's not healthy. You want to be comfortable with who you are despite what others think of you. Seriously, find what makes you happy (that's not "who" makes you happy).

    Trust me, we've all had onitis. I was with my first love for 8 1/2 years. I was her first EVERYTHING. But when it's over it's over. You need to just look yourself in the mirror and say, "I'm the farking man and I don't need a woman on my arm to prove it to myself."

    If I can put it to you eloquently. Stop being a bitch!
    Beautiful women 'under my spell' is what makes me feel powerful/happy.. I need more of that.

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Nope. YOU being under a beautiful woman's spell is what is making you feel content. There's a big difference and until you figure it out you're not going to get the women you want. MAN UP!
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    John Wayne's got a point my man. I'm kind of in a sticky situation with an ex as well and keeping yourself under your ex's wing isn't healthy.

    It's when we're single when we find out our strengths, not when we have that girl who is constantly nurturing us. You gotta learn to nurture yourself and take your OWN life by the balls. Find something to do that doesn't have to do with girls for a while it helps ALOT.

    Then another good tool to have that will help you get back out of your room is Neil Strauss's Rules of the Game. I keep that sh1t locked away for when I'm feeling like i need a good social work out. It has a 30 day program with daily exercises that will help you rebuild who you are socially. (including reinvention if wanted)

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Quote Originally Posted by .complete.noob View Post
    I miss my ex. I have for a long time, I think I've worked out why I have this one-itis.

    It's the feeling of power, that I now lack.

    She was an eleven out of ten (beauty in the eye of the beholder, yes, she might not be your perfect.. but not one guy on earth would disagree that she's an extremely attractive girl) and that's the rush, I think. The reason I can't let go.

    Forget the car you can buy, the bank account.. The quality of the girl you're waking up next to gives you that powerful feeling.

    That's what I need again. The ultimate power. The most beautiful girl you've laid eyes on, giving you her love. Everytime she was at my side, I would see the envy in the eyes of other men walking by.

    I need that again. How do I let ex go, so I can focus on putting my life together, in order to attract another girl who is drop dead gorgeous?!
    Get rid of everything that reminds you of her! Write down the stuff you hated about her! Now write down a contract with yourself that you will forget her with that list of her bad qualities! Write it in first person, set a date and sign it.

    Every single time you think of her slap yourself! I mean really slap yourself. This way whenever you think of her your brain will associate it with physical pain. At first you might walk around with a red face, but at some point the slapping will be less and less. Slap yourself even when there are people around!
    Make the impossible possible!

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    Default Swimming the Atlantic

    Duke has a point. Don't be overly attached to her. You need to adopt the mindset that you can easily find another woman who would be interested in you.

    Once you have a successful hit on another woman, you'll feel like a whole new man. Trust me, I've been in the same situation. Got super obsessed with this girl for a whole year. Literally pushed everyone else out of my life for her. When I realized what I was doing and when I saw that she was not my kind of girl, I killed the relationship. Obsession is indeed a cruel beast. Don't become victim to it.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Nope. YOU being under a beautiful woman's spell is what is making you feel content. There's a big difference and until you figure it out you're not going to get the women you want. MAN UP!
    How do I figure out this difference? I never felt anything like I do for her before this sht happened. It's killing me!

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    Default Re: Advice needed: Inner game..

    Validation is a terrible drug my friend.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.


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